Symptoms of fetishism?
Hello, I enjoy rubbing my blanket with my fingers or lips gently.
This gives me a strong sense of security, especially when I'm under stress, and it makes me feel happy.
However, I do not experience any sexual pleasure from this; it is simply a source of comfort.
I've had this behavior since elementary school, and even now, when I feel sad or scared, I can't help but want to engage in this rubbing action.
Although it hasn't caused significant disruption in my life (at most, I sometimes have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning), my family believes that I should seek medical advice.
I would like to ask if this could be considered a symptom of a paraphilia.
Thank you.
Lingdang, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/10/15
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Based on your description, this ritual has a self-soothing effect and does not significantly impact your functioning most of the time, so it should be fine.
These self-soothing rituals may change or diminish over time.
Additionally, it is important to identify what is causing your stress and to address that stress, as it may be more crucial.
With reduced stress, these rituals typically decrease as well.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2015/10/15
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Your experience of seeking comfort through tactile sensations, such as rubbing a blanket with your fingers or lips, is an interesting phenomenon that can be understood within the context of mental health. This behavior, which you describe as providing a sense of safety and relief from stress, may not necessarily indicate a pathological condition, but rather a coping mechanism that you have developed over time.
From a psychological perspective, behaviors that provide comfort or a sense of security are often rooted in our early developmental experiences. Many individuals have specific objects or actions that they associate with feelings of safety and calmness. This can be particularly true for those who may have experienced anxiety or stress during childhood. The act of rubbing a blanket could be seen as a form of self-soothing, similar to how some children might cling to a favorite stuffed animal or blanket for comfort.
Your description suggests that this behavior does not lead to sexual arousal, which differentiates it from paraphilic disorders, such as fetishism. Instead, it appears to be a benign form of self-soothing that helps you manage anxiety and emotional distress. It’s important to note that many people engage in similar behaviors, such as fidgeting, tapping, or using stress balls, as a way to cope with stress or anxiety.
However, the concern raised by your family about the need for medical intervention may stem from a misunderstanding of the nature of your behavior. While it is always wise to be mindful of behaviors that could potentially interfere with daily functioning, your description indicates that this behavior does not significantly disrupt your life. It is common for individuals to have unique ways of coping with stress, and as long as these behaviors are not harmful or compulsive, they can be considered normal.
If you find that this behavior is becoming more frequent or if it starts to interfere with your daily life—such as causing you to stay in bed longer than you would like or impacting your responsibilities—it may be beneficial to explore these feelings further with a mental health professional. They can help you understand the underlying causes of your anxiety and provide you with additional coping strategies that may be more effective or socially acceptable.
In summary, your behavior of rubbing a blanket for comfort does not appear to be a symptom of a disorder but rather a personal coping mechanism. It is essential to maintain open communication with your family about your feelings and behaviors, and if there are concerns, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional who can provide support and insight tailored to your specific situation. Remember, understanding and addressing mental health concerns is a journey, and seeking help is a positive step towards well-being.
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