Inability to relax?
During work hours, I feel like my entire body is in a state of tension, as if I am always on high alert.
Over time, this has made me feel as though my body is no longer under my control; I become tense involuntarily, especially in my back.
I notice that even when I have completed my tasks efficiently, I still feel uneasy during any downtime, as if I am afraid others will think I am too idle.
I am aware that there are colleagues who use social media or their phones for personal matters while at work, yet I find it difficult to disregard this and not worry about others' opinions.
It feels like there are imaginary spectators in my mind, making me believe that everyone is watching me, which prevents me from relaxing.
I experience guilt for taking breaks and even feel inadequate about myself.
I am struggling with this because I know I work hard and fulfill my responsibilities, but this inability to relax is causing me significant distress.
What should I do? I would appreciate any advice you can offer.
Thank you.
sel, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/12/05
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: As you mentioned, when you focus on your work, your anxiety levels are lower, but during breaks, you tend to worry about others' perceptions.
We cannot achieve perfection; everyone has some flaws and imperfections.
Typically, colleagues do not form opinions about us based on our shortcomings or imperfections.
I suggest that you concentrate on your work while working and take proper breaks during your downtime.
When others provide feedback, assess whether it is suitable for you; if they do not express their opinions directly to you, consider that they may not have any issues with you.
Everyone has areas where they can improve, and it is important to accept our own imperfections.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2015/12/05
More Info
Overcoming workplace anxiety can be a challenging endeavor, especially when it manifests as a constant state of tension and self-doubt. It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of stress and anxiety related to your work environment, which is not uncommon in today’s fast-paced and often demanding workplaces. Here are some strategies that may help you find relaxation and balance in your work life.
Understanding the Root of Your Anxiety
First, it’s essential to recognize that anxiety often stems from a fear of judgment or a desire to meet perceived expectations. You mentioned feeling uneasy during downtime at work, worrying that others might think you are not working hard enough. This fear can create a cycle of anxiety that makes it difficult to relax, even when you have completed your tasks. Understanding that these feelings are common can be the first step in addressing them.
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a well-established method for managing anxiety. It involves identifying negative thought patterns and replacing them with more balanced, realistic thoughts. For instance, when you find yourself worrying about what others think, try to challenge that thought. Ask yourself, “Is there any evidence that my coworkers are judging me?” or “What would I say to a friend in this situation?” This reframing can help reduce anxiety and allow you to focus more on your work and less on perceived judgments.
Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques
Incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine can significantly help in managing anxiety. Mindfulness involves being present in the moment and can be practiced through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or even short breaks to focus on your surroundings. For example, when you feel the tension building, take a few minutes to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and focus on your breath. This can help ground you and reduce feelings of anxiety.
Setting Boundaries and Realistic Goals
Setting clear boundaries between work and personal time is crucial. If you find yourself working during off-hours or feeling guilty for taking breaks, it may be helpful to establish a structured schedule that allows for dedicated work time and designated breaks. During your breaks, engage in activities that you enjoy or that help you relax, such as taking a walk, listening to music, or practicing a hobby.
Additionally, setting realistic goals for your work can help alleviate the pressure you place on yourself. Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps, and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This can help shift your focus from perfectionism to progress.
Seeking Professional Help
If your anxiety continues to interfere with your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide tailored strategies and support, including therapy or medication if necessary. Sometimes, just having a space to talk about your feelings can be incredibly relieving.
Building a Support Network
Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of a support network. Sharing your feelings with trusted colleagues or friends can help normalize your experiences and provide you with different perspectives. You might find that others share similar feelings, which can foster a sense of community and understanding.
Conclusion
In summary, overcoming workplace anxiety involves understanding the root causes of your feelings, employing cognitive-behavioral techniques, practicing mindfulness, setting realistic goals, and seeking professional help if needed. Remember that it’s okay to take breaks and prioritize your mental health. By implementing these strategies, you can work towards finding a balance that allows you to feel more relaxed and in control in your work environment.
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