Emotional instability
Hello, recently I've been facing the dilemma of whether to pursue higher education and which university to attend as I am about to graduate high school.
There have also been some issues in my class that make it difficult for me to be myself at school.
I've been experiencing frequent emotional outbursts with my friends; one moment I'm happy, and the next, if something doesn't go my way, I find myself telling everyone to leave me alone or using harsh words.
Sometimes I get so upset that I cry uncontrollably, questioning myself about why I'm crying.
When my emotions surge, I also have thoughts of self-harm and even suicidal ideation, which has led me to break several things in frustration.
Could this be due to the recent stress I'm under, or is there something more serious going on with my mental health?
What, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/03/14
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Based on your description, there are many stressful events occurring simultaneously.
You are facing pressure and choices regarding further education, some issues in your class, interpersonal interaction stress, and a decline in emotional and impulse control.
It seems that the multitude of pressures is overwhelming you.
I suggest that you take breaks when needed.
When all the stressors come together, it can be distressing and hard to bear; it may be more feasible to tackle them one by one.
Calmly analyze each source of stress, identify possible ways to improve them, focus on what can be changed, and accept what cannot be changed.
However, if the situation does not improve, it may indicate that the stress has led to symptoms of depression.
If your appetite and sleep are also affected, I recommend seeking medical assistance.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2016/03/14
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Hello! It sounds like you are going through a very challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the emotional turmoil you are experiencing. The feelings of instability, anger, sadness, and even thoughts of self-harm can be overwhelming, especially when compounded by the pressures of transitioning to university and navigating social dynamics at school.
From what you've described, it seems that you are experiencing significant emotional fluctuations. This can often be a response to stress, particularly when faced with major life decisions such as choosing a university and dealing with interpersonal conflicts. Emotional instability can manifest in various ways, including mood swings, irritability, and feelings of hopelessness. These symptoms can be exacerbated by external pressures, such as academic expectations and social interactions.
It's important to recognize that while stress can certainly lead to emotional instability, the intensity of your feelings—especially thoughts of self-harm—indicates that you may need to seek professional help. Mental health conditions, such as anxiety disorders, depression, or even borderline personality disorder, can present with similar symptoms. These conditions can be triggered or worsened by stress, but they often require targeted interventions to manage effectively.
Here are some strategies that may help you navigate your current emotional challenges:
1. Seek Professional Support: It’s crucial to talk to a mental health professional who can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and help you understand what you are experiencing. They can offer therapy options, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which is effective in managing emotional instability and stress.
2. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep-breathing exercises, can help you ground yourself during moments of emotional upheaval. These techniques can reduce anxiety and improve your emotional regulation.
3. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process your emotions. It allows you to reflect on what triggers your anger or sadness and can help you identify patterns in your emotional responses.
4. Establish a Support System: Surround yourself with friends or family members who can provide emotional support. It’s important to communicate your feelings to those you trust, as they can offer perspective and understanding.
5. Limit Stressors: If possible, try to identify and limit sources of stress in your life. This could mean setting boundaries with friends or taking breaks from social media, which can sometimes exacerbate feelings of inadequacy or anxiety.
6. Engage in Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly improve your mood and reduce stress. Activities like walking, running, or yoga can help release endorphins, which are natural mood lifters.
7. Create a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and predictability, which can be comforting during times of emotional instability. Include time for self-care activities that you enjoy.
8. Avoid Substance Use: While it might be tempting to use alcohol or drugs to cope with your feelings, these substances can worsen emotional instability and lead to further complications.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and seeking support is a sign of strength. You don’t have to navigate this alone, and there are resources available to help you through this difficult time. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health, and taking steps to care for it is essential. I encourage you to reach out to a mental health professional as soon as possible to discuss your feelings and experiences in more detail. You deserve support and understanding as you work through these challenges.
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