Should I Disclose My Social Phobia to Classmates or Professors?

Should I let my classmates or teachers know about my condition?

I am a patient with social phobia and currently undergoing medication treatment.
However, as I am attending graduate school, I often have to present at seminars.
Before going on stage, I take Inderal, but I still experience symptoms such as shaky legs, palpitations, nausea, and distortion while presenting.
I often need classmates or seniors to help me finish my presentations.
Additionally, I face many difficulties in interacting with classmates; for instance, when a classmate greets me, I become so startled that my whole body tenses up.
I insist on sitting alone in the last row during classes.
My family, on the other hand, believes I am faking my illness and thinks that if I join the military and undergo rigorous training, I can overcome my inherent issues.
Should I inform my advisor or classmates about my condition? Thank you.

Niming, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/03/19

Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry

Hello, generally speaking, having a secret that you fear others discovering can lead to anxiety.
If you reveal your difficulties in a relatively safe environment using self-deprecating humor, it might actually reduce your anxiety significantly, and others won't misunderstand your situation as intentional.
However, there isn't a definitive answer to this issue; it depends on your relationship with your teachers and classmates, as well as their understanding of social anxiety disorder.
It seems they care for you and are willing to lend a hand when you face difficulties, so sharing your struggles with them should be more beneficial than harmful.
At the very least, it will reduce any negative assumptions they might have due to a lack of understanding.
However, unless you have a very close relationship, everyone tends to focus on their own lives, and even if we have issues, we cannot expect others to constantly empathize with us.
Since you are seeing a doctor, you can also discuss any concerns directly with your attending physician and take their advice as the primary reference; my input can just serve as a secondary consideration.
Wishing you all the best.
Sincerely, Dr.
Ding Shuo-Yan.

Reply Date: 2016/03/19

More Info

Disclosing your social phobia to classmates or professors is a deeply personal decision and can depend on various factors, including your comfort level, the environment you are in, and the relationships you have with those individuals. Here are some considerations to help you make your decision.

Firstly, it’s important to understand that social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder, is a recognized mental health condition that can significantly impact daily functioning, especially in academic settings. Symptoms such as intense fear of social situations, physical symptoms like trembling or nausea, and avoidance behaviors can make it challenging to participate fully in your studies. Acknowledging this condition is the first step toward managing it effectively.

If you feel comfortable, disclosing your condition to your professors or classmates could potentially alleviate some of the pressure you feel. By sharing your struggles, you may find that others are more understanding and supportive. This could lead to a more accommodating environment where you feel less judged and more accepted. For instance, professors might be more willing to provide alternative arrangements for presentations or allow you to present in a less intimidating setting. Classmates may also be more empathetic and willing to assist you during group activities or presentations.

However, it’s also essential to consider the potential risks of disclosure. Not everyone may understand social anxiety, and there is a possibility of facing stigma or misunderstanding. If you choose to share your condition, it might be helpful to frame it in a way that emphasizes your desire to improve and your commitment to your studies. For example, you could explain that you are working on managing your anxiety and that you appreciate their support.

In addition, it’s crucial to have a support system in place. If you decide to disclose your condition, consider discussing it first with a trusted friend or a mental health professional. They can provide guidance on how to approach the conversation and help you prepare for various responses you might receive.

Moreover, it’s worth noting that you are already taking proactive steps by seeking treatment and using medication like Inderal to manage your symptoms. This shows a commitment to your well-being and can be a point of strength when discussing your condition with others. You might also want to explore additional coping strategies, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which has been shown to be effective for social anxiety.

Lastly, remember that you are not alone in this experience. Many individuals face similar challenges, and there are resources available to help you navigate your social phobia. Whether you choose to disclose your condition or not, prioritize your mental health and seek support when needed. Engaging with a mental health professional can also provide you with tailored strategies to cope with your anxiety in academic settings.

In conclusion, the decision to disclose your social phobia to classmates or professors should be made based on your comfort level and the specific context of your relationships. Weigh the potential benefits of understanding and support against the risks of stigma. Regardless of your choice, continue to focus on your treatment and personal growth, and remember that seeking help is a sign of strength.

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