Helping 7th Graders Develop Positive Attitudes Towards Learning and Life - Psychiatry

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Hello, Doctor.
I apologize for interrupting you during your busy schedule, but I am at a loss and would like to seek your advice regarding the upbringing of my seventh-grade daughter.
Our family consists of dual-income parents and a second-grade younger sister.
My eldest daughter is currently in seventh grade, and unfortunately, we have been unable to correct her attitude towards school and life since the fifth and sixth grades.
She struggles with basic responsibilities, such as getting up on her own.
We have tried a self-discipline approach, trusting her to complete her tasks and wake up for school independently, but she has not been bringing her communication book home for us to sign.

Now, with the new school and new teachers, her communication book has been filled with red marks indicating various assignments that have not been submitted, and she is consistently late.
Even in seventh grade, her attitude towards learning and life remains passive, lazy, and indifferent to her peers' opinions and teachers' reminders.
I genuinely want to help her and hope she can adopt a more positive attitude.
What can we, as parents, do to provide her with the right direction so that she understands and is willing to change? Thank you, Doctor.

Wu zhu de mama, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/08/08

Dr. Song Chengxian reply Psychiatry


Hello: Your eldest daughter has a laid-back lifestyle, poor self-discipline, and lacks motivation, which may be due to both inherent factors and adaptive outcomes.
I recommend that you take your daughter to a pediatric mental health specialist for an evaluation during the summer.
This will help you understand why she struggles to change despite trying various methods, and it will provide effective behavioral intervention strategies tailored to her specific characteristics.
Sincerely, Dr.
Song.

Reply Date: 2016/08/08

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Helping 7th graders develop positive attitudes towards learning and life can be a challenging yet rewarding endeavor. As a parent or guardian, it’s essential to understand that adolescence is a critical period for emotional and cognitive development. During this time, children are not only navigating their academic responsibilities but also their social identities and personal values. Here are some strategies that can help guide your 7th grader towards a more positive outlook on learning and life.


1. Open Communication
Establishing a strong line of communication is crucial. Encourage your child to express their thoughts and feelings about school and their experiences. Ask open-ended questions that prompt discussion, such as “What was the best part of your day?” or “What challenges did you face today?” This approach not only helps you understand their perspective but also shows them that their feelings are valid and important.


2. Set Realistic Expectations
It’s important to set achievable goals for your child. Instead of overwhelming them with high expectations, break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate their achievements, no matter how small, to build their confidence. For example, if they complete their homework on time, acknowledge their effort with praise or a small reward.


3. Encourage Independence
While it’s tempting to oversee every aspect of your child’s education, fostering independence is key. Allow them to take responsibility for their own tasks, such as managing their homework or setting their alarm clock. If they forget to bring home their homework or fail to complete it, use these moments as learning opportunities rather than occasions for punishment. Discuss what they could do differently next time.


4. Model Positive Behavior
Children often emulate the behavior of their parents. Demonstrate a positive attitude towards learning and challenges in your own life. Share your experiences with setbacks and how you overcame them. This modeling can instill resilience and a growth mindset in your child.


5. Create a Structured Environment
Establishing a consistent routine can help your child feel more secure and organized. Set specific times for homework, chores, and leisure activities. A structured environment reduces chaos and helps children understand the importance of time management.


6. Promote a Growth Mindset
Encourage your child to adopt a growth mindset, which emphasizes the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and perseverance. Teach them that mistakes are part of the learning process and that challenges can be opportunities for growth. Use phrases like “I can’t do this yet” instead of “I can’t do this” to reinforce this mindset.


7. Engage in Their Interests
Take the time to discover what interests your child outside of academics. Whether it’s sports, music, art, or technology, engaging in their passions can boost their self-esteem and motivate them to apply the same enthusiasm to their studies. Encourage them to join clubs or activities that align with their interests.


8. Seek Professional Help if Needed
If your child’s attitude towards learning and life continues to be concerning, consider seeking help from a school counselor or a mental health professional. They can provide additional support and resources tailored to your child’s needs.


9. Foster Social Connections
Encourage your child to build friendships and engage with peers. Positive social interactions can enhance their school experience and motivate them to participate more actively in their education. Arrange playdates or group activities that allow them to connect with classmates.


10. Be Patient and Supportive
Change takes time, and it’s important to be patient with your child as they navigate their feelings and attitudes. Offer your support and understanding, and remind them that it’s okay to ask for help when they need it.

In conclusion, helping your 7th grader develop a positive attitude towards learning and life requires a combination of open communication, realistic expectations, and supportive guidance. By fostering independence, modeling positive behavior, and encouraging a growth mindset, you can help your child build the skills and attitudes necessary for success in school and beyond. Remember, your involvement and support can make a significant difference in their journey towards becoming a motivated and engaged learner.

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