Overcoming Fear of Crowds: A Journey Towards Employment and Mental Wellness

Fear of facing crowds?

I haven't worked for many years and currently rely on my family for financial support, which makes me feel like a "parasite." Recently, I tried looking for jobs on the 1111 Job Bank website and applied to one company.
However, I started to regret it, and I've been experiencing insomnia, digestive issues, and headaches.
When I noticed that the employer hadn't viewed my resume yet, I felt relieved but also hoped that others wouldn't judge me for my fluctuating emotions and my desire to avoid facing people.
I want to change, but I find myself under a lot of pressure.
Should I continue down this path? Thank you.

Nín hǎo, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/04/25

Dr. Liu Runqian reply Psychiatry

If the reason for being unable to work is due to fear of facing crowds, it may resemble social anxiety disorder, anxiety disorder, or depression.
Since you have not provided detailed descriptions of your symptoms, it is currently difficult to determine the exact cause of your inability to work.
It is advisable to discuss and seek treatment from a professional psychiatrist, as symptoms can likely improve.

Reply Date: 2017/04/25

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Overcoming the fear of crowds and the associated anxiety when seeking employment can be a challenging journey, especially after a long hiatus from the workforce. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when you are trying to navigate the complexities of job searching while dealing with mental health concerns. Your experience of feeling regret after applying for a job, coupled with physical symptoms like insomnia, digestive issues, and headaches, indicates that the stress of this situation is taking a toll on your overall well-being.

Firstly, it’s important to recognize that many people experience anxiety when re-entering the job market, particularly after a significant break. The fear of crowds and social interactions can be exacerbated by the pressure to perform well in interviews or to meet the expectations of potential employers. This anxiety can manifest in various ways, including physical symptoms like those you mentioned. It’s crucial to address these feelings rather than suppress them, as they can lead to a cycle of avoidance that may hinder your progress.

Here are some strategies that may help you manage your anxiety and move towards a more positive outlook on employment:
1. Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on what specifically causes your anxiety about crowds and job searching. Is it the fear of judgment, the pressure to succeed, or something else? Understanding the root of your anxiety can help you address it more effectively.

2. Gradual Exposure: If crowds make you anxious, consider gradually exposing yourself to social situations. Start small by engaging in low-pressure environments, such as attending a small gathering or participating in community events. Gradually increasing your exposure can help desensitize you to the fear.

3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep-breathing exercises, into your daily routine. These techniques can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety levels. Apps like Headspace or Calm can guide you through these practices.

4. Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety continues to interfere with your daily life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide you with coping strategies and a safe space to explore your feelings. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety and can help you reframe negative thoughts.

5. Set Realistic Goals: Instead of overwhelming yourself with the idea of finding a job immediately, set small, achievable goals. For example, aim to apply for one job per week or spend a certain amount of time each day researching potential employers. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.

6. Connect with Supportive Individuals: Surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who understand your situation. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can alleviate some of the burdens you carry.

7. Focus on Your Strengths: Remind yourself of your skills and experiences that make you a valuable candidate. Write down your strengths and accomplishments to boost your confidence before interviews or networking events.

8. Limit Job Search Anxiety: If checking for updates on your job application causes you stress, set specific times to check your email or application status. This can help reduce the anxiety of waiting for responses.

9. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Maintain a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and ensure you get enough sleep. Physical health is closely linked to mental health, and taking care of your body can improve your overall mood and resilience.

10. Consider Volunteering: If the idea of a full-time job feels daunting, consider volunteering. This can provide you with valuable experience, help you build confidence in social situations, and expand your network without the pressure of a formal job.

In conclusion, overcoming the fear of crowds and the anxiety associated with job searching is a gradual process that requires patience and self-compassion. By taking small steps and seeking support, you can work towards a healthier mindset and a successful re-entry into the workforce. Remember, it’s okay to feel anxious, and seeking help is a sign of strength. You are not alone in this journey, and with time and effort, you can achieve your goals.

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