Self-Stimulation: Addressing Pain and Concerns in Adolescents

Masturbation issues?

Doctor, I'm sorry.
I'm 12 years old and I masturbate once every 1 to 2 months.
I experience soreness in my thighs during masturbation.
I would like to ask the doctor what I should do.

Niming, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/11/22

Dr. Li Xinyi reply Urology

The situation you described is possible and seems to be without issues.
Although the frequency of masturbation is not high, I would like to remind you that you are still young.
Puberty has just begun, and both your body and mind are healthy.
Transitioning into adulthood will be smooth if you stay relaxed.
Try not to focus too much on that aspect; don’t treat it as an outlet for seeking stimulation.
Engaging in sexual activities too frequently can indicate a loss of balance in life, which is generally not beneficial.

Reply Date: 2017/11/22

More Info

It's important to approach the topic of self-stimulation, or masturbation, with sensitivity and understanding, especially when discussing it with adolescents. At the age of 12, many young people are beginning to explore their bodies and understand their sexuality. This exploration is a normal part of development, but it can also come with questions and concerns, particularly regarding physical sensations and emotional responses.

Firstly, it's essential to recognize that self-stimulation is a common behavior among adolescents. It is a natural way for individuals to explore their bodies, experience pleasure, and relieve sexual tension. However, if you are experiencing discomfort, such as soreness in your thighs, it may be worth considering a few factors.

1. Technique and Position: The way you are engaging in self-stimulation can impact your physical comfort. If you are using a position that puts strain on your thighs or other muscles, it might lead to soreness. Experimenting with different positions or techniques may help alleviate this discomfort.

2. Frequency: Engaging in self-stimulation 1-2 times a month is generally considered normal. However, if you find that it is becoming more frequent or compulsive, it might be helpful to reflect on the reasons behind this behavior. Are you using it as a way to cope with stress, anxiety, or other emotions? Understanding the underlying motivations can provide insight into your behavior.

3. Physical Health: If the soreness persists or worsens, it may be beneficial to consult with a healthcare professional. They can assess whether there are any underlying physical issues contributing to your discomfort. It's crucial to prioritize your health and well-being.

4. Emotional Considerations: It's also important to consider the emotional aspects of self-stimulation. If you find that it is causing you anxiety or distress, it may be helpful to talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, guardian, or counselor. They can provide support and guidance as you navigate these feelings.

5. Education: Educating yourself about sexual health and development can empower you to make informed decisions about your body. There are many resources available, including books and websites, that provide accurate information about puberty, sexuality, and self-exploration.

6. Communication: If you feel comfortable, discussing your concerns with a trusted adult can be beneficial. They can help you understand that what you are experiencing is a normal part of growing up and can provide reassurance and guidance.

In summary, self-stimulation is a normal behavior for adolescents, but if you are experiencing discomfort or emotional distress, it is essential to address these concerns. Consider your technique, frequency, and the emotional context of your behavior. If discomfort persists, seeking advice from a healthcare professional can provide clarity and support. Remember, it’s okay to have questions and seek help as you navigate this aspect of your development.

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