Stress issues
Hello, doctor.
My question is about my girlfriend, who has been emotionally affected by issues concerning her daughter.
It seems that her memory has regressed; a couple of days ago, she couldn't remember anyone except her daughter.
When I met her yesterday, she said she remembers me as a person but doesn't recall my name, and she has forgotten our past together.
Additionally, she used to refer to her children as "little brother" and "little sister," but now she calls them "son" and "daughter." She also struggles to remember her son, but she still remembers where we currently rent our place and some events from before her divorce.
Yesterday, she suddenly went home to get something and still remembered that I have a lot of acne on my back, even offering to apply medication for me.
However, she insists that she knows me but doesn't recognize me.
What can I do to help her recover her memory? Thank you.
A Min, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/06/29
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, A-Min.
For sudden episodes of amnesia, it is advisable to first consult a neurologist to rule out the possibility of encephalitis, meningitis, or other bodily abnormalities.
Only after excluding these medical issues should you consider seeing a psychiatrist.
Dr.
Wu En-Liang.
Reply Date: 2018/06/29
More Info
Helping a loved one with memory loss, particularly when it is stress-induced, can be a challenging and emotionally taxing experience. Your girlfriend's situation, where she experiences selective memory loss and recalls certain memories while forgetting others, is indicative of a psychological phenomenon known as dissociative amnesia. This condition can occur in response to traumatic events or significant stressors, leading to temporary memory loss that can affect personal history, relationships, and even basic facts about oneself.
Understanding Stress-Induced Amnesia
Stress-induced amnesia can manifest in various ways, including:
1. Selective Memory Loss: Individuals may forget specific events or periods in their lives that are associated with trauma or stress. In your girlfriend's case, it seems she has retained some memories while losing others, particularly those related to her children and your relationship.
2. Fragmented Memories: Often, individuals may remember certain details, such as locations or physical characteristics, but struggle with names or specific events. This can create a sense of confusion and frustration for both the individual and their loved ones.
3. Emotional Responses: The emotional weight of the memories that are lost can lead to feelings of fear, anxiety, or sadness. Your girlfriend's experience of remembering you but not your name, or recalling her children differently, may evoke a sense of loss or distress.
Steps to Support Your Girlfriend
1. Encourage Professional Help: The first and most crucial step is to encourage her to seek professional help. A mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, can provide a thorough evaluation and determine the best course of treatment. This may include therapy, medication, or a combination of both.
2. Create a Safe Environment: Ensure that she feels safe and supported. Stress and anxiety can exacerbate memory issues, so creating a calm and reassuring environment is essential. Encourage open communication, allowing her to express her feelings without judgment.
3. Use Reminders and Cues: Help her by using visual aids or reminders. This could include photo albums, journals, or even simple notes that can jog her memory. Discussing shared experiences or looking at pictures together can help her reconnect with her memories.
4. Be Patient and Understanding: Memory recovery can be a slow process. Be patient with her and avoid pressuring her to remember things. Instead, focus on building new memories together, which can help reinforce her sense of identity and connection.
5. Engage in Activities Together: Participating in activities that she enjoys or that are meaningful to her can help stimulate her memory. This could include hobbies, outings, or even simple daily routines that can create a sense of normalcy and comfort.
6. Monitor for Other Symptoms: Keep an eye on any additional symptoms she may exhibit, such as changes in mood, behavior, or physical health. If you notice any concerning changes, encourage her to seek medical attention promptly.
7. Educate Yourself: Understanding the nature of her condition can help you provide better support. Familiarize yourself with the symptoms and treatment options for stress-induced amnesia and related conditions.
Conclusion
Memory loss, especially when linked to stress or trauma, can be a complex issue that requires compassion, understanding, and professional intervention. By supporting your girlfriend through this challenging time, you can help her navigate her feelings and work towards recovery. Remember, while you can provide support, the most effective way to address her memory loss is through professional guidance. Encourage her to take that step, and be there for her as she embarks on the journey to healing.
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