My Mental Health Struggles: A Teen's Journey

What is wrong with me?

I am currently in a state of suspension from high school.
Since the end of middle school, I have not wanted to get out of bed for school every day and have been pretending to be sick to take leave.
After graduation, I thought that once summer vacation was over, things would get better, but instead, it has worsened my already limited social interactions, and I have trouble making good friends.
My dad is very angry about my frequent absences, so he told me to take a break from school.
He usually stays abroad but often video calls.
However, whenever he is in a bad mood, he brings up old issues and yells at me, often calling me worthless and telling me to just end it all.
His harsh words have left me feeling numb, and I often want to cry but can't.
Now, I don't want to sleep at night and end up sleeping until noon, not wanting to do anything.
My mom keeps scolding me, and I don't even know what's wrong with me.
I used to be a perfectly fine person, but now I feel like someone who doesn't want to do anything at all.

An Zai, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/12/25

Dr. Liu Shikai reply Psychiatry

Hello, Anzi.
It seems that you are currently stuck in a state that you do not like, and you are seeking answers and change! This is a good start.
The next step is to ask your parents to accompany you to a psychosomatic or psychiatric outpatient clinic for further evaluation, so that you can identify the root of your issues and find ways to change.
Additionally, it is very important to adjust your daily routine.
A reversed day-night cycle can trap you in a vicious cycle.

Reply Date: 2018/12/25

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It sounds like you are going through an incredibly challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the pain and confusion you are feeling. Mental health struggles, especially during the teenage years, can be overwhelming and isolating. Your experiences of feeling disconnected from yourself, struggling with motivation, and facing pressure from family and peers are common among adolescents dealing with mental health issues.

From what you've described, it seems like you may be experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety. These conditions can manifest in various ways, including a lack of motivation, feelings of worthlessness, social withdrawal, and difficulty in managing daily tasks. The fact that you feel like you are "putting on a mask" in different situations indicates a struggle with your identity and self-acceptance, which is not uncommon during adolescence when individuals are trying to figure out who they are.

It's important to understand that these feelings are not a reflection of your worth as a person. The negative comments from your father, while hurtful, do not define you. It's crucial to seek support from trusted individuals, whether that be friends, family members, or mental health professionals. You deserve to be heard and to receive help.

Here are some steps you can consider taking to address your mental health struggles:
1. Talk to Someone: It might be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and help you develop coping strategies. If you're worried about how to approach your family about this, you could start by expressing that you're feeling overwhelmed and need support. You might say something like, "I've been feeling really down lately, and I think it would help to talk to someone who can help me."
2. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process what you're going through. It can help you identify patterns in your emotions and provide clarity on what triggers certain feelings.

3. Establish a Routine: Even if you don't feel like it, try to create a daily routine that includes basic self-care activities, such as getting out of bed at a certain time, eating regular meals, and engaging in light physical activity. This can help provide structure to your day and improve your mood over time.

4. Limit Negative Influences: If certain interactions with family members are causing you distress, it may be helpful to set boundaries where possible. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you rather than bring you down.

5. Engage in Activities You Enjoy: Even if you don't feel motivated, try to engage in activities that you once enjoyed or that spark your interest. This could be anything from drawing, reading, or listening to music. Small steps can lead to bigger changes in your mood.

6. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall mental well-being. These techniques can help you stay grounded and present, reducing feelings of overwhelm.

7. Consider Medication: If your symptoms are severe and significantly impacting your daily life, medication may be an option to discuss with a psychiatrist. Antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications can help balance brain chemistry and alleviate some of the distressing symptoms.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Many people experience similar struggles, and reaching out for help is a courageous step. It’s important to prioritize your mental health and seek the support you need to navigate this difficult time. You deserve to feel better and to find joy in your life again.

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