Borderline Personality Traits: When to Seek Help - Psychiatry

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I suspect that I might have borderline personality disorder?


I recently discovered that I might have borderline personality traits, as several characteristics seem to apply to me.
However, I am still able to manage my daily life, although I do experience negative thoughts more frequently and have occasional emotional outbursts that can be quite intense.
I'm unsure if I should see a doctor or a therapist, as it doesn't seem to significantly impact my normal life and I don't feel like it's a major illness.
It feels manageable, and I believe I can get through it as long as I endure during the low emotional periods.

J, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/05/24

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry


Hello, netizen: An important aspect of personality disorders is that they should impact daily functioning.
If, as you mentioned, it "does not significantly affect your normal life," then it should be manageable.
If it truly becomes a concern, seeking help from a specialist is advisable.
Dr.
Wu Enliang

Reply Date: 2020/05/24

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Understanding Borderline Personality Traits: When to Seek Help
It’s commendable that you’re reflecting on your mental health and considering the possibility of having borderline personality traits. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is characterized by a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image, and emotions. Individuals with BPD often experience intense emotional responses, fear of abandonment, and difficulties in maintaining stable relationships. They may also engage in impulsive behaviors and have a distorted self-image, which can lead to feelings of emptiness and confusion about their identity.

From your description, it seems you are experiencing some symptoms that align with BPD, such as negative thoughts and emotional outbursts. However, you also mention that these feelings do not significantly disrupt your daily life. This raises an important question: when should one seek professional help?
1. Intensity and Frequency of Symptoms: If you find that your negative thoughts and emotional outbursts are becoming more frequent or intense, it may be time to seek help. Even if you feel you can manage your symptoms currently, they can escalate over time, leading to more significant distress or impairment in your life.

2. Impact on Relationships: Consider how your emotional state affects your relationships with others. If you notice that your interactions are becoming strained or that you are withdrawing from friends and family due to your feelings, this could be a sign that professional support is needed.

3. Coping Mechanisms: If you find yourself relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms to manage your emotions, such as substance use, self-harm, or avoidance behaviors, it’s crucial to seek help. Healthy coping strategies can be learned through therapy, which can provide you with tools to manage your emotions more effectively.

4. Persistent Feelings of Emptiness or Hopelessness: If you experience ongoing feelings of emptiness, hopelessness, or despair, it’s essential to talk to someone. These feelings can be indicative of deeper issues that may require professional intervention.

5. Support System: If you feel isolated or lack a support system, therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and develop healthier relationships. A therapist can help you understand your emotions and guide you in building a more supportive network.

6. Self-Reflection: Engaging in self-reflection is a positive step. However, if you find that your self-assessment leads to more confusion or distress, a mental health professional can provide clarity and help you navigate your feelings.

7. Seeking Professional Help: If you decide to seek help, consider starting with a mental health professional who specializes in personality disorders or emotional regulation. Therapy modalities such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) have been shown to be effective for individuals with BPD, focusing on emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, distress tolerance, and mindfulness.

In conclusion, while it’s possible to manage certain symptoms of BPD on your own, seeking help can provide you with the tools and support necessary to navigate your emotions more effectively. It’s important to remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you ever feel overwhelmed or unable to cope, do not hesitate to contact a mental health professional. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health, and taking proactive steps can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

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