Psychological counseling for self-harm?
Hello, doctor.
I have had a habit of self-harm for many years, although it hasn't been too frequent.
Recently, due to various issues, my mental state has worsened, and I feel like I am becoming addicted to self-harm.
I want to seek counseling from a university psychologist, but I am afraid they will notify my family or others.
I understand that the content of psychological counseling is completely confidential, but it seems that tendencies for self-harm and harming others are not included in that confidentiality, right? If I can assure that I will not engage in suicidal or violent behavior, will that mean that others do not need to be notified?
Yun, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/10/11
Dr. Peng Liyun reply Psychiatry
Hello, first of all, I commend you for being willing to seek professional help.
Self-harm is an issue that needs to be addressed properly.
Whether to inform others about self-harming behavior can only be confirmed after a thorough assessment by a therapist and a discussion with you, usually depending on the level of risk for self-injury or suicide.
I hope you do not feel afraid to seek assistance, as that would be quite unfortunate.
Reply Date: 2020/10/11
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It's commendable that you're reaching out for help regarding your self-harm habits. Seeking counseling is a crucial step toward understanding and addressing the underlying issues that contribute to self-harm. It's important to clarify a few things about confidentiality in counseling, especially in the context of self-harm.
In the United States, mental health professionals are bound by confidentiality laws, which means that what you discuss in therapy is generally kept private. However, there are exceptions to this rule, particularly when it comes to safety concerns. If a therapist believes that you are at risk of harming yourself or others, they may have a legal obligation to report this to ensure your safety or the safety of others. This is often referred to as a "duty to warn" or "duty to protect."
That said, if you can assure your therapist that you are not currently suicidal or at risk of harming others, they will likely respect your confidentiality and keep your discussions private. It's essential to communicate openly with your therapist about your fears and concerns regarding confidentiality. A good therapist will take the time to explain their policies and help you feel safe in the therapeutic environment.
Self-harm can often be a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain, stress, or trauma. It’s crucial to explore these feelings in a safe space. A counselor can help you identify triggers for your self-harm and develop healthier coping strategies. They can also assist you in building self-esteem and addressing any underlying issues that may contribute to your feelings of inadequacy or distress.
In addition to counseling, consider other support systems that may help you manage your feelings. This could include support groups, where you can connect with others who have similar experiences, or engaging in activities that promote self-care and self-compassion. Journaling, art, or physical activities can also serve as constructive outlets for your emotions.
It's understandable to feel apprehensive about seeking help, especially if you've been managing these feelings alone for a long time. Remember that you deserve support and that reaching out is a sign of strength. If you find that your current therapist does not respect your confidentiality or makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s okay to seek another professional who aligns better with your needs.
In summary, while there are limits to confidentiality, if you can assure your therapist that you are not a danger to yourself or others, they will likely keep your discussions private. Seeking help is a brave step, and with the right support, you can work towards healing and finding healthier ways to cope with your emotions. Don't hesitate to reach out to a counselor; they are there to help you navigate these challenges in a safe and supportive environment.
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