Personality is like this?
The main reason is that I am accustomed to talking to myself, which has led me to become used to not engaging in conversations with others.
Even though I can appreciate the opposite sex, I don't spend much time talking to them.
As a result, I have relied on my parents for support until the age of 40 and do not feel that pursuing romantic relationships is very important.
I tend to focus on my own thoughts and do not make an effort to understand others.
Additionally, my only interest is visiting bookstores; I do not enjoy outdoor activities, making it difficult for me to have a girlfriend.
To be honest, I don't even know how to pursue someone romantically, as I am used to living in my own world.
In summary, I have quite a few issues.
After 15 sessions of psychological therapy at the hospital, the clinical psychologist could only suggest that I look for relevant videos on YouTube to learn.
I am also a patient with mild schizophrenia.
1, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/01/22
Dr. Liao Dinglie reply Psychiatry
Hello, online friend: Keep it up.
In fact, many individuals with schizophrenia lead normal lives, including dating, marriage, and raising children.
If you find it difficult to socialize, you may not be accustomed to talking to others.
When dating someone of the opposite sex with the implication of marriage, it often brings about dual pressure.
I still recommend that you cultivate various life habits and engage in outdoor activities regularly, as this will help balance your inner and outer mental life.
These activities can be consistent, and you don't have to force yourself to talk to others.
Over time, some activities will naturally lead to meeting people.
If you can regularly visit the library in addition to browsing bookstores, the people you meet may become more consistent, which means you will have more potential conversation partners in the future.
Perhaps the people you chat with will include both males and females, and you may eventually find someone you connect with for further dating! Wishing you a fulfilling and enjoyable life, with peace of mind and body! Dr.
Liao Ding-Lie
Reply Date: 2021/01/22
More Info
Overcoming social isolation is a multifaceted journey that often intertwines with mental health challenges. Your experience of relying on solitary activities, such as talking to yourself and frequenting bookstores, while feeling disconnected from others, is not uncommon. Many individuals find themselves in similar situations, especially when they have developed habits that prioritize solitude over social interaction. This can lead to a cycle of isolation that becomes increasingly difficult to break.
Firstly, it’s important to recognize that social skills can be learned and improved over time. Just as you might study a subject in school, you can also study social interactions. Watching videos on platforms like YouTube, as suggested by your therapist, can provide valuable insights into communication techniques, body language, and understanding social cues. These resources can help demystify the process of engaging with others, making it feel less daunting.
Additionally, consider starting small. Engaging in brief conversations with people in low-pressure environments, such as cashiers at a bookstore or fellow patrons, can help you practice social skills without the pressure of a deeper connection. Gradually increasing the complexity of these interactions can build your confidence. For instance, after a few exchanges, you might try asking someone for a book recommendation or sharing your thoughts on a book you both enjoy.
It’s also essential to explore your interests beyond solitary activities. While visiting bookstores is a wonderful hobby, consider joining a book club or a discussion group. This can provide a structured environment where you can meet new people who share your interests. Engaging in group activities can help you learn to communicate and connect with others in a more relaxed setting.
Moreover, understanding the underlying factors contributing to your social isolation is crucial. You mentioned having a mild form of schizophrenia, which can impact your perception of reality and social interactions. It’s vital to continue working with mental health professionals to manage these symptoms effectively. Therapy can provide you with coping strategies and tools to navigate social situations, as well as address any anxiety or fear associated with them.
Building a support network is another key element in overcoming social isolation. While you may feel comfortable relying on your parents, it’s beneficial to expand your circle. This could involve reconnecting with old friends or seeking out new acquaintances through community events or online forums related to your interests. Online platforms can be particularly helpful, as they allow for interaction without the immediate pressure of face-to-face communication.
Lastly, self-compassion is essential. It’s easy to be critical of oneself when facing challenges, but recognizing that everyone struggles with social interactions at times can help alleviate some of that pressure. Celebrate small victories, whether it’s initiating a conversation or simply stepping out of your comfort zone. Progress may be slow, but each step forward is a testament to your resilience and willingness to change.
In conclusion, overcoming social isolation is a journey that requires patience, practice, and support. By actively seeking opportunities to engage with others, utilizing resources to improve your social skills, and continuing to work with mental health professionals, you can gradually build meaningful connections and enhance your overall well-being. Remember, it’s never too late to learn how to connect with others and enrich your life with social interactions.
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