Emotional Struggles: Coping with Grief and Anger - Psychiatry

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Hello Doctor: I have a very introverted personality and tend to keep my feelings to myself when faced with any situation.
I easily get angry over certain matters.
Ever since my father passed away, whenever my family mentions him, I remember his kindness towards me, and tears start to flow uncontrollably.
I often feel physically exhausted and want to sleep, and I only want to take a shower every couple of days.
Sometimes, I also have thoughts of suicide and have even attempted to strangle myself with a charging cable.

Wen Hui, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/03/31

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry


Netizens have reported experiencing significant emotional distress, even having suicidal thoughts.
It is recommended to seek medical attention at the nearest mental health facility, or you can call the "I Still Love You" hotline at 1925 for assistance.
Dr.
Wu En-Liang.

Reply Date: 2022/03/31

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I'm truly sorry to hear about the emotional struggles you're facing, especially following the loss of your father. Grief can be an incredibly complex and painful experience, often accompanied by a range of emotions including sadness, anger, and even feelings of hopelessness. It's important to acknowledge that what you're feeling is valid and that you're not alone in this journey.

First and foremost, it’s crucial to understand that grief is a natural response to loss. The feelings of sadness and anger that arise when you think about your father are common. These emotions can be triggered by memories or conversations about him, and it's perfectly normal to cry or feel overwhelmed. The process of grieving can manifest in various ways, including physical symptoms like fatigue, changes in sleep patterns, and a lack of motivation to engage in daily activities, such as bathing or socializing.

Your mention of suicidal thoughts and self-harm is particularly concerning. These feelings indicate that you may be experiencing a deeper level of emotional distress that requires immediate attention. Self-harm is often a way to cope with overwhelming emotions, but it is not a healthy or effective long-term solution. It’s essential to reach out for help from a mental health professional who can provide you with the support and guidance you need during this difficult time.

Here are some strategies that may help you cope with your grief and emotional struggles:
1. Talk About Your Feelings: While it may be difficult, expressing your emotions can be incredibly therapeutic. Consider talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your feelings. Sharing your thoughts can help alleviate some of the burdens you're carrying.

2. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a powerful way to process your emotions. It allows you to reflect on your experiences and can provide an outlet for your grief.

3. Engage in Self-Care: Although you may not feel like it, try to prioritize self-care. This includes maintaining a regular sleep schedule, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in physical activity. Even small steps, like taking a short walk or practicing relaxation techniques, can make a difference.

4. Seek Professional Help: Given the intensity of your feelings, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide you with coping strategies tailored to your needs and help you work through your grief in a safe environment.

5. Join a Support Group: Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can be comforting. Support groups provide a space to share your experiences and learn from others who are navigating their grief.

6. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep-breathing exercises, can help ground you in the present moment and reduce feelings of anxiety and sadness.

7. Limit Exposure to Triggers: If certain conversations or situations trigger intense feelings of grief, it may be helpful to set boundaries around those topics until you feel more equipped to handle them.

8. Create a Memory Ritual: Honoring your father's memory can be a meaningful way to cope with your loss. Consider creating a ritual, such as lighting a candle, visiting a place that was special to him, or engaging in an activity he enjoyed.

Remember, healing from grief is not linear, and it’s okay to have good days and bad days. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this challenging time. Your feelings are important, and seeking help is a sign of strength. Please reach out to a mental health professional who can support you in finding healthier ways to cope with your grief and emotional struggles. You deserve to find peace and healing.

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