Emotional Struggles in High School: A Student's Perspective - Psychiatry

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Hello, doctor.
I am a high school freshman, and I don't understand why I feel uncomfortable during class when I can't comprehend the material or solve problems.
I'm not sure if it's sadness or frustration, but it often leads me to cry (I try to suppress the urge to cry during class and only shed tears).
I can only focus on deep breathing or use pain to distract myself, and I try to ignore what the teacher is saying to alleviate the uncomfortable feeling.
However, this also prevents me from paying attention to the class content, and I can't solve the problems I don't understand.
In middle school, I chose to give up when I encountered difficulties, and now, three years later, these symptoms have persisted for about four years.

Yuan, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/09/15

Dr. Wu Menghuan reply Psychiatry


Hello: The academic workload in high school is significantly more challenging than in junior high, and it's common to struggle to understand the material in class; I believe many students share your feelings.
However, you mentioned that this sense of frustration leads to discomfort, feelings of sadness, crying, difficulty in shifting focus, and even the need to inflict pain on yourself to distract from these feelings, which has persisted for four years.
I would recommend discussing this with your family or a school counselor, and having your family take you to a mental health professional for evaluation and treatment.

Reply Date: 2022/09/15

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Hello there,
It sounds like you are experiencing a challenging time as a high school student, and I want to acknowledge the courage it takes to express these feelings. Many students face emotional struggles during their high school years, and it’s important to understand that you are not alone in this experience. Your feelings of discomfort, sadness, and frustration when faced with academic challenges are valid and can be quite common among students, especially during significant transitions like moving from middle school to high school.

From what you’ve described, it seems that you may be dealing with a combination of anxiety and possibly some underlying feelings of inadequacy or fear of failure. These emotions can manifest in various ways, including crying, difficulty concentrating, and a tendency to avoid tasks that seem overwhelming. It’s not uncommon for students to feel a sense of pressure to perform well academically, and when they encounter difficulties, it can lead to feelings of despair or frustration.

The fact that you find yourself crying during class or feeling the need to suppress those emotions indicates that you are experiencing a significant emotional response to stress. This is a natural reaction, but it can become problematic if it interferes with your ability to learn and engage in your studies. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are not a reflection of your worth or intelligence. Many students struggle with similar issues, and it’s okay to seek help.

Here are some strategies that might help you manage these feelings:
1. Talk to Someone: It can be incredibly beneficial to talk to someone about what you’re going through. This could be a trusted teacher, school counselor, or a family member. Expressing your feelings can provide relief and help you gain perspective on your situation.

2. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or even simple stretching can help you manage anxiety and emotional distress. When you feel overwhelmed, taking a moment to breathe deeply can help ground you and reduce the intensity of your feelings.

3. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps: If you find certain subjects or tasks overwhelming, try breaking them down into smaller, more manageable parts. This can make them feel less daunting and help you build confidence as you complete each step.

4. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: It’s important to remember that everyone learns at their own pace. Celebrate small victories and progress, rather than focusing solely on the end result. This shift in mindset can help reduce feelings of frustration.

5. Seek Professional Help: If these feelings persist and significantly impact your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide you with coping strategies tailored to your specific needs and help you work through your emotions in a constructive way.

6. Engage in Activities You Enjoy: Finding time for hobbies or activities that bring you joy can provide a much-needed break from academic pressures. Whether it’s sports, art, or music, engaging in enjoyable activities can help improve your mood and overall well-being.

7. Establish a Routine: Having a structured daily routine can provide a sense of stability and predictability, which can be comforting during times of emotional upheaval. Include time for study, relaxation, and socializing in your routine.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to express your feelings. High school can be a tumultuous time, but with the right support and strategies, you can navigate these challenges. You are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this period. Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you need it.

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