Sexual Orientation: Questions About Identity and Acceptance - Psychiatry

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Sexual orientation issues


Hello doctor, I like girls and I also want to be a girl...
Is there something abnormal about my sexual orientation?

You, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2023/11/10

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry


There are no abnormalities reported by the netizen.
Dr.
Wu Enliang.

Reply Date: 2023/11/10

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Understanding your sexual orientation and identity can be a complex and deeply personal journey. It's important to recognize that there is a wide spectrum of sexual orientations and gender identities, and what you are experiencing is not uncommon. Based on your statement, it seems that you identify as someone who is attracted to women and also desires to embody a female identity. This is a valid experience and does not indicate any "abnormality."
Sexual orientation refers to the pattern of emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction one feels towards others, while gender identity is about how individuals perceive themselves and what they call themselves. In your case, you may be identifying as a transgender woman or a gender non-conforming individual who is attracted to women, which could be described as being a part of the LGBTQ+ community.

It’s essential to understand that sexual orientation and gender identity are not binary; they exist on a spectrum. Many people find themselves in situations where their gender identity does not align with their biological sex, and this can lead to feelings of confusion or questioning. This exploration is a normal part of understanding oneself.
If you feel comfortable, consider seeking support from LGBTQ+ groups or mental health professionals who specialize in gender identity and sexual orientation. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings and help you navigate your journey. Engaging with others who have similar experiences can also be incredibly validating and enlightening.

Additionally, it’s important to remember that societal norms and expectations can heavily influence how we perceive our identities. The pressure to conform to traditional gender roles can create internal conflict, especially if you feel drawn to aspects of both femininity and masculinity. Embracing your unique identity, whatever that may look like, is crucial for your mental and emotional well-being.

In terms of acceptance, both self-acceptance and acceptance from others can take time. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family, or finding a community that understands and respects your identity, can make a significant difference. Remember that your feelings and experiences are valid, and you deserve to express yourself authentically.

Lastly, it’s worth noting that many people experience fluidity in their sexual orientation and gender identity over time. This means that your understanding of yourself may evolve, and that’s perfectly okay. The key is to remain open to your feelings and experiences as you continue to learn more about yourself.

In conclusion, your attraction to women and desire to identify as female are not abnormal; they are part of the diverse spectrum of human experience. Embrace your journey, seek support when needed, and remember that you are not alone in this exploration. Your identity is valid, and it’s important to honor it as you navigate your path forward.

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