Feeling overwhelmed by stress to the point of wanting to commit suicide?
I am a student preparing for the exam this year, and when I see my unsatisfactory grades, I feel like crying.
Whether it's a major or minor exam, I come home and avoid using my phone, but I constantly feel anxious about the exam date.
Every night, I lie in bed at midnight, and it takes me until after 3 AM to fall asleep.
I don't touch my phone for the last fifteen minutes before sleeping, yet I still can't fall asleep.
Recently, my grades have been very disappointing, and I am far from the goals I set for myself, which adds a lot of pressure.
This pressure comes both from my own expectations and from others, making it hard for me to breathe.
Three weeks ago, I even had thoughts of suicide, and for the past few weeks, I have been engaging in self-harm.
My emotions have become very irritable and unpredictable.
I don't know how to face others, and I find myself crying easily.
My daily life consists of studying, self-harm, and sleepless nights.
However, I still feel happy in my life overall, but I experience significant pressure regarding exams.
When faced with others' concern, I instinctively avoid it, and I just want to fall asleep earlier.
I want to ask the doctor if I need to see a physician.
Xia, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2023/12/09
Dr. Lin Mianzhang reply Psychiatry
Hello, Xia: It seems that you are experiencing significant anxiety, irritability, insomnia, suicidal thoughts, and self-harming behaviors.
It must be very distressing for you to take over three hours to fall asleep each night.
Lack of sleep not only affects your mood but also impairs your clarity of thought, reaction time, and memory, which will certainly impact your performance on exams.
Additionally, self-harming behaviors can cause physical harm to your body.
Therefore, I recommend that you seek psychiatric care as soon as possible.
Through psychological counseling and medication support, your emotional state and sleep quality can improve, allowing you to perform better during exams.
Stay strong! Wishing you peace and health.
Reply Date: 2023/12/09
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It sounds like you are going through an incredibly challenging time, and it's important to recognize that the feelings you are experiencing are valid and deserve attention. The pressure of exams, especially when combined with personal expectations and external pressures, can lead to significant mental health challenges, including anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.
From what you've described, it appears that you are experiencing a range of symptoms that are concerning. The fact that you have had thoughts of self-harm and have been feeling overwhelmed by your emotions indicates that you may benefit from professional help. Mental health professionals, such as psychologists or psychiatrists, can provide you with the support and tools you need to cope with these feelings and navigate the pressures you are facing.
Here are some key points to consider regarding your situation:
1. Recognizing the Signs: The symptoms you mentioned, such as difficulty sleeping, feelings of hopelessness, irritability, and self-harm, are serious indicators that you may be struggling with your mental health. It's crucial to take these signs seriously and seek help.
2. Seeking Professional Help: If you are having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, it is essential to reach out to a mental health professional immediately. They can provide you with a safe space to talk about your feelings and develop coping strategies. Don't hesitate to contact a trusted adult, school counselor, or mental health hotline if you feel overwhelmed.
3. Coping Strategies: While waiting to see a professional, there are some strategies you can try to help manage your anxiety and stress. These include:
- Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety.
- Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly improve your mood and reduce stress. Even a short walk can make a difference.
- Establishing a Routine: Creating a daily schedule that includes time for studying, relaxation, and sleep can help you feel more in control.
- Limiting Screen Time: Since you mentioned that you avoid your phone before bed but still struggle to sleep, consider creating a calming bedtime routine that does not involve screens. This could include reading a book, listening to soothing music, or practicing relaxation exercises.
4. Communicating with Others: It can be helpful to talk to someone you trust about what you are going through. This could be a friend, family member, or teacher. Sharing your feelings can alleviate some of the burdens you are carrying.
5. Setting Realistic Goals: While it's great to have aspirations, it's also important to set realistic and achievable goals for yourself. Understand that it's okay to not meet every expectation, whether it's your own or others'. Focus on your progress rather than perfection.
6. Understanding the Importance of Sleep: Sleep is crucial for mental health, especially during stressful times. If you are having trouble sleeping, consider establishing a calming bedtime routine and creating a comfortable sleep environment. If sleep issues persist, discussing this with a healthcare provider is essential.
In conclusion, your mental health is just as important as your academic performance. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve support, and there are professionals who can help you navigate this difficult time. Please take care of yourself and reach out for the help you need.
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