Hair pulling, procrastination, anxiety, social withdrawal?
Hello, doctor.
I am currently a 16-year-old high school freshman.
Since the time I was preparing for the entrance exam in junior high, I developed a bad habit of pulling my hair.
At that time, I thought it was just due to the stress of studying for the exam and that it would improve after the exam, but since then, I have been intermittently pulling my hair.
Recently, I have created a noticeable bald spot on my scalp (my family and classmates have pointed it out).
Additionally, I find it difficult to concentrate on studying because of my hair-pulling.
My grades were above average in junior high, but since entering high school, I have been scoring at the bottom of my class.
Besides pulling my hair, I have a habit of procrastination and accumulating tasks.
I leave my clean clothes piled on my bed, and even though I have time, I don’t fold and put them away.
I tend to delay doing things until the last minute.
I have started to experience anxiety regarding my relationships.
Although I haven’t had any arguments or misunderstandings with my friends, I worry that one day they might abandon me.
I have also begun to refuse social interactions; new people, environments, and situations make me anxious.
I am reluctant to meet new people and feel that socializing is exhausting.
When our class changes seats by lottery, I try to swap with classmates to get back to my original seat because I cannot accept sitting in a different place.
I also feel somewhat lethargic.
My usual sleep schedule is from 1:00 AM to 6:30 AM (my family insists that I go to bed before midnight, but I usually delay until 1:00 AM).
On weekends, I sleep as long as I can, as long as my family doesn’t wake me up.
There have been times when I slept until 11:00 AM and was called for lunch, then went back to sleep from around noon until 6:00 PM.
I believe the causes of my anxiety may include the following: during my junior high years, my parents had a serious argument that almost led to divorce.
I once confided in the school counselor about it, but I have not had any relevant treatment experience.
Although my parents did not end up divorcing and reconciled, their arguments have become more frequent recently, and I feel anxious in this family atmosphere.
My parents are aware that I pull my hair and often tell me not to do it, but I cannot control myself.
Eventually, I wrapped my fingertips with protective bandages to prevent myself from pulling my hair.
When my mother saw this, she asked why I was wrapped up, and I told her it was to stop pulling my hair.
She just replied, “Oh.”
I feel quite sad that my parents do not realize how serious my hair-pulling issue is or pay attention to my feelings during their arguments.
Although I know I could just speak up, I believe my situation has deteriorated to the point where they should notice, and I find it difficult to express these feelings.
I would like to ask the doctor if my situation makes me feel like I might be developing depressive tendencies that are affecting my life.
Should I see a doctor? If I need to see a doctor, do I need to have an adult accompany me? Thank you for taking the time to read my question, and I appreciate your response.
Niming, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2024/05/05
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: The symptoms of hair pulling are often an outlet for emotions and stress, serving as a form of non-verbal expression.
The fundamental treatment approach should focus on reducing the underlying stress or adjusting coping mechanisms for stress.
Given the current situation, it is advisable to seek medical attention, and it is also recommended that parents accompany you, as the family atmosphere is an important factor.
You have articulated your concerns very clearly; it would be beneficial to print out your description and questions to provide to the attending physician for reference.
Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Reply Date: 2024/05/05
More Info
It sounds like you are going through a very challenging time, and it's commendable that you are seeking help and trying to understand your situation better. The issues you are facing, including hair pulling (trichotillomania), anxiety, procrastination, and social withdrawal, are interconnected and can significantly impact your daily life and mental health.
Understanding Your Symptoms
1. Hair Pulling (Trichotillomania): This behavior often serves as a coping mechanism for stress or anxiety. It can be a way to manage overwhelming feelings, but it can also lead to physical harm and further emotional distress, as you've experienced with the noticeable bald spot on your head. It's important to recognize that this behavior is not just a bad habit; it can be a sign of underlying emotional issues that need to be addressed.
2. Anxiety and Social Withdrawal: Your feelings of anxiety, especially regarding friendships and social situations, are common among teenagers. The fear of rejection or abandonment can lead to avoidance behaviors, which can create a cycle of loneliness and increased anxiety. It's understandable that you feel overwhelmed by new environments and changes, such as moving to high school, which can be a significant transition.
3. Procrastination: This can often be a symptom of anxiety. When tasks feel overwhelming, it can be easier to put them off, leading to a buildup of stress and further anxiety. This cycle can affect your academic performance and self-esteem.
4. Sleep Issues: Your sleep patterns, such as staying up late and feeling excessively tired, can also contribute to your anxiety and overall mental health. Sleep is crucial for emotional regulation, and poor sleep can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression.
Recommendations for Moving Forward
1. Seek Professional Help: It is highly advisable to consult a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can provide a proper assessment and help you understand your symptoms better. Therapy can be particularly beneficial for addressing trichotillomania and anxiety. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is one effective approach that can help you develop healthier coping strategies.
2. Involve Your Parents: While it may feel daunting, involving your parents in this process can be beneficial. They can provide support and help you navigate the healthcare system. If you feel comfortable, consider discussing your feelings with them before your appointment. If you prefer to go alone, some therapists may see minors without parental consent, but having a parent or guardian can help facilitate communication and support.
3. Develop Coping Strategies: In addition to professional help, you can start developing coping strategies on your own. This might include mindfulness practices, journaling your feelings, or engaging in physical activities that you enjoy. Finding healthy outlets for your emotions can help reduce the urge to pull your hair and manage anxiety.
4. Build a Support Network: Try to connect with friends or peers who understand what you’re going through. Sharing your experiences with others can help alleviate feelings of isolation. If you find it difficult to make new friends, consider joining clubs or activities that interest you, as this can provide a structured way to meet new people.
5. Monitor Your Sleep: Establishing a regular sleep schedule can improve your overall mood and energy levels. Aim for 7-9 hours of sleep per night, and try to create a calming bedtime routine that helps you wind down.
Conclusion
Your feelings and experiences are valid, and it's important to take steps toward understanding and addressing them. Seeking help is a strong and positive step, and with the right support, you can work through these challenges. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources and people who can help you navigate this difficult time.
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