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Hello, Doctor: I have some concerns that have been causing me anxiety.
Over three years ago, I dated my first boyfriend, and we broke up more than three years ago.
A few days ago, I accidentally discovered that his sexual life is quite complicated, which shocked me.
I am really afraid of contracting any diseases since we kissed, engaged in fondling, and I even performed oral sex on him (but there was no actual intercourse).
He did not ejaculate, and the encounter was brief, but all of this happened over three years ago.
Recently hearing about his promiscuity has made me quite fearful...
(During our intimate moments, I did not allow his genitalia to enter my vagina).
About six months ago, I had a physical examination and blood tests, but I am unsure if the blood test included an HIV test.
However, the report results were normal.
I would like to ask the doctor, in this situation, what is the likelihood of contracting HIV? Thank you.
Xiao Dai, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/05/05
Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology
It's really frightening.
Just go to the hospital and ask the doctor to perform blood tests for sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Having multiple sexual partners certainly increases the risk of infection.
Remember! Safe sex practices are a lifelong commitment.
Reply Date: 2005/05/05
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When it comes to understanding the risks of HIV transmission, especially in the context of past relationships, it's essential to consider several factors, including the nature of the sexual activities involved, the time that has elapsed since those activities, and the health status of both partners at that time.
In your case, you mentioned that you engaged in kissing, fondling, and oral sex with your ex-boyfriend, but you did not have penetrative vaginal intercourse. Importantly, he did not ejaculate during oral sex. Generally, the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is significantly lower than through vaginal or anal intercourse. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) states that while oral sex can carry some risk, it is much less than that associated with penetrative sex. The presence of cuts or sores in the mouth, as well as the viral load of the HIV-positive partner, can influence the risk level, but in your situation, the absence of ejaculation further reduces the likelihood of transmission.
Since the sexual encounter occurred over three years ago, the risk of HIV transmission from that specific incident is extremely low, especially if you have not experienced any symptoms or health issues related to HIV since then. Additionally, you mentioned that you had a blood test about six months ago, and while you are unsure if it included an HIV test, normal results generally indicate that you were not infected at that time. If you had been infected with HIV, it is likely that it would have shown up in your blood test, especially if it was conducted within a few months of the exposure.
However, if you are still feeling anxious about your past relationship and potential exposure, it may be beneficial to get tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) for peace of mind. Many healthcare providers recommend routine testing for sexually active individuals, particularly if they have had multiple partners or have engaged in high-risk behaviors. Testing is a straightforward process, and knowing your status can alleviate concerns and help you make informed decisions about your sexual health moving forward.
It's also important to remember that maintaining open communication with partners about sexual health and practicing safer sex methods, such as using condoms, can significantly reduce the risk of HIV and other STIs. If you find yourself in a situation where you are unsure about a partner's health status, discussing testing and safe practices can help create a safer environment for both parties.
In summary, based on the information you've provided, the risk of HIV transmission from your past relationship is very low, especially considering the nature of the sexual activities and the time that has passed. If you have ongoing concerns, getting tested can provide clarity and peace of mind. Remember, safe sexual practices and regular health check-ups are key components of maintaining sexual health.
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I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that.
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