affective and volitional disorders
Dear Doctor Lin,
I have recently found my willpower to be very weak, and my emotional experiences have been negative.
After my father's death, I cannot manage all the relationships with my family.
I am having difficulties facing my younger brother's marriage.
After the birth of the baby, I am affected and find myself returning to my childhood.
All the terrible memories resurface.
I am very troubled.
Can you please help me understand what is happening to me?
Sincerely,
A Woman
N, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2001/07/11
Dr. Lin Yanhong reply Psychiatry
To the woman: My recommendation is to see a doctor and describe your condition in more detail.
You may be able to identify the problem and find ways to address it.
Good luck.
Reply Date: 2001/07/11
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Dear Woman,
I want to start by expressing my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your father. Losing a loved one, especially a parent, can be one of the most profound and challenging experiences in life. It is entirely normal to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, confusion, and even anger, as you navigate through this difficult time. Your feelings of weakness and emotional struggles are valid and deserve attention and care.
From what you’ve shared, it seems that your father's death has significantly impacted your emotional well-being and your relationships with your family. Grief can manifest in various ways, and it often brings unresolved feelings and memories to the surface, particularly when you are faced with situations that remind you of your loss. The fact that you are having difficulties facing your younger brother's marriage and the birth of his child indicates that these events may be triggering memories of your childhood and your father, which can be overwhelming.
It’s important to recognize that grief is not a linear process; it can ebb and flow, and it can be complicated by other life events. The feelings of returning to childhood and the resurgence of terrible memories may be your mind's way of processing your loss. This can lead to feelings of vulnerability and helplessness, especially when you are confronted with situations that remind you of your father.
Here are a few suggestions that may help you navigate through this emotional turmoil:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions arise without judgment. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Writing in a journal can be a helpful way to express these feelings and reflect on your experiences.
2. Seek Support: It’s crucial to talk to someone about what you’re going through. This could be a trusted friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Sharing your feelings can provide relief and help you feel less isolated in your grief.
3. Consider Professional Help: If you find that your emotional struggles are overwhelming or persistent, it may be beneficial to seek therapy. A therapist can help you process your grief, develop coping strategies, and work through any unresolved feelings related to your father's death.
4. Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote your well-being. This could include exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature. Taking care of your physical health can have a positive impact on your emotional state.
5. Create New Memories: While it’s important to honor your father’s memory, try to create new traditions or memories with your family. This can help you find joy in the present while still cherishing the past.
6. Be Patient with Yourself: Grieving is a personal journey that takes time. Allow yourself the grace to heal at your own pace. It’s okay to have good days and bad days.
7. Connect with Others: Sometimes, sharing your experiences with others who have gone through similar losses can be comforting. Consider joining a support group for those who are grieving.
In conclusion, your feelings of weakness and emotional struggles are part of the grieving process, and it’s important to address them with compassion and care. Remember that you are not alone in this journey, and seeking help is a sign of strength. Take the time you need to heal, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you need it.
Wishing you peace and healing,
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