Struggling to Find a Job: Overcoming Career Confusion and Self-Doubt

I don't know what job to pursue?

Hello Dr.
Chang: I know that I am currently living off my parents, but I don't know what kind of job would be suitable for me.
I feel very troubled as I have been unemployed for over a year.
I previously worked in my field of expertise, but I was let go shortly after because my performance did not meet the required standards.
This has led to a rejection of my profession, and I am reluctant to pursue a career in that field again.
However, I am at a loss for what else I could do.
What should I do? I feel increasingly frustrated and lack confidence, and sometimes I even have negative thoughts.
What should I do?

Niming, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2012/06/20

Dr. Zhang Jiafen reply Psychiatry

Hello, I can sense from your letter that you are currently feeling quite down.
Finding comfort, joy, and a sense of achievement in the workplace can be a challenge for everyone.
However, at this moment, the more important challenge for you should be to focus on making yourself happy.
You mentioned in your letter that you previously worked in your field of expertise but felt rejected due to not meeting the required standards, which has led to a reluctance to continue in that industry.

Although it may sound cliché, one failure does not mean future failures are inevitable.
For example, most people encounter subjects they struggle with during their education.
When facing these subjects, individuals typically adopt one of two mindsets: one is to challenge themselves in the subjects they find difficult because they believe they can learn; the other is to leverage their strengths in other subjects to boost their overall performance.
You might consider trying both of these different thought processes to rethink and resolve the issues that are currently troubling you.
Often, we become confused and limited by our own insecurities and fears.
However, you have already taken that difficult first step by bravely confronting your inner conflicts.
Therefore, I believe what you need now is confidence in your ability to succeed.
During this journey, perhaps you could try to find someone to talk to—not necessarily a physician, but anyone you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with.
Wishing you all the best.

Reply Date: 2012/06/20

More Info

Dear Inquirer,
Thank you for sharing your concerns regarding your current employment situation and the feelings of confusion and self-doubt that have arisen as a result. It is understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially after experiencing job loss and the subsequent struggle to find a new position that aligns with your skills and interests. The feelings you are experiencing are not uncommon, and many individuals go through similar challenges at various points in their careers.

Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that taking time off from work, whether voluntarily or due to circumstances beyond your control, can lead to feelings of frustration and anxiety. The pressure to find a job can be compounded by societal expectations and personal aspirations, which can create a cycle of self-doubt and negative thinking. It is crucial to recognize that this phase is a part of your journey and does not define your worth or capabilities.

Given your experience in your professional field and the subsequent feelings of rejection and inadequacy, it may be beneficial to take a step back and reassess your skills, interests, and values. Here are some steps you can consider to help navigate this challenging period:
1. Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on what aspects of your previous job you enjoyed and what you found challenging. Consider what skills you possess that could be transferable to other roles. This self-assessment can help you identify potential career paths that may align better with your interests and strengths.

2. Explore New Opportunities: While it is understandable to feel hesitant about returning to your previous field, consider exploring related areas or entirely new industries that may pique your interest. Researching different career options and networking with professionals in those fields can provide insights and open doors to new opportunities.

3. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your job search into manageable tasks. Setting small, achievable goals can help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment. For example, aim to apply for a certain number of jobs each week or reach out to a specific number of contacts in your network.

4. Seek Support: Do not hesitate to reach out for support from friends, family, or career counselors. Talking about your feelings and experiences can provide relief and may lead to new perspectives. Additionally, consider joining support groups or workshops that focus on career development and mental well-being.

5. Focus on Mental Health: It is essential to prioritize your mental health during this time. Engage in activities that promote well-being, such as exercise, mindfulness, or hobbies that bring you joy. If feelings of self-doubt and negativity persist, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and coping strategies.

6. Embrace Lifelong Learning: Consider taking courses or attending workshops to enhance your skills or learn new ones. This not only boosts your confidence but also makes you more marketable to potential employers. Many online platforms offer free or low-cost courses in various fields.

7. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this process. Understand that everyone faces setbacks, and it is okay to take time to find the right fit for you. Celebrate your efforts, no matter how small, and remind yourself that your value is not solely determined by your employment status.

In conclusion, navigating career confusion and self-doubt can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By taking proactive steps, seeking support, and focusing on your mental well-being, you can gradually regain your confidence and find a path that aligns with your aspirations. Remember, it is okay to take your time in this journey, and every step you take is a step toward a brighter future.

Wishing you all the best in your endeavors.

Sincerely,
Doctor Q&A Teams

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