Feeling unwell?
I often feel uncomfortable when I first arrive in a new environment, experiencing some psychological struggles.
For instance, when I moved from the south to Taipei to study and settled into a dormitory, I felt anxious about the new surroundings.
I also feel uneasy when interacting with people, often judging them based on their appearance.
I understand that in the workforce, I will encounter a variety of individuals, and we cannot choose whom we interact with.
This has contributed to my difficulty in finding a job, as I feel I do not enjoy working with others.
I have a mindset of being cautious around people, believing that one should always be wary of others.
Currently, I am over 30 years old and single, with no romantic relationships, and I do not have plans to get married.
Perhaps I would prefer to open my own business, be my own boss, and have less need to face many people.
While values may change with life experiences, personality traits tend to be deeply ingrained.
I hope the doctor can provide some guidance.
x, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2013/08/28
Dr. Song Chengxian reply Psychiatry
Hello, it seems that you have some regrets about your difficulty in socializing and wish to change yourself.
Indeed, changing one's personality is not easy.
Choosing a lifestyle that suits your personality is not a bad option; however, if you want to explore whether you have the potential to change your reserved nature, I suggest considering the assistance of psychotherapy.
Visiting a psychiatric or psychosomatic clinic can provide you with more tailored information to meet your needs.
Wishing you all the best! Sincerely, Dr.
Song.
Reply Date: 2013/08/28
More Info
Navigating anxiety in new environments can be a significant challenge, especially when it comes to mental health. Your experience of feeling uncomfortable and anxious when transitioning to a new setting, such as moving from the southern part of Taiwan to Taipei for school, is not uncommon. Many individuals face similar feelings of unease and apprehension when encountering unfamiliar surroundings and people. This phenomenon can be attributed to several psychological factors, including environmental adaptation, social anxiety, and personal temperament.
When we enter a new environment, our brains instinctively assess the situation for potential threats. This is a survival mechanism that has evolved over time. However, in modern contexts, this can manifest as anxiety, especially if the new environment is markedly different from what we are accustomed to. For instance, moving to a bustling city like Taipei can be overwhelming due to the increased pace of life, diverse social interactions, and the pressure to adapt quickly.
Your feelings of discomfort when interacting with others, particularly based on their appearance, may stem from social anxiety. Social anxiety disorder is characterized by an intense fear of social situations where one may be judged or scrutinized. This can lead to avoidance behaviors, such as hesitance to engage with others or reluctance to seek employment opportunities that require interpersonal interaction. It's important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that many people experience similar struggles.
The fact that you have not yet found a job and prefer to work independently, perhaps by opening your own business, indicates a desire for autonomy and control over your environment. This is a common coping mechanism for individuals who feel overwhelmed by social interactions. However, it’s crucial to consider that while working alone may provide temporary relief, it can also lead to isolation, which can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and loneliness over time.
To address these challenges, it may be beneficial to explore several strategies:
1. Gradual Exposure: Gradually exposing yourself to social situations can help desensitize your anxiety. Start with small interactions, such as greeting a neighbor or engaging in brief conversations with classmates. Over time, these small steps can build your confidence.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This therapeutic approach can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns that contribute to your anxiety. A mental health professional can guide you through this process, helping you develop healthier coping mechanisms.
3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness, meditation, or relaxation exercises can help you manage anxiety symptoms. These techniques encourage you to focus on the present moment and reduce the overwhelming feelings associated with anxiety.
4. Building a Support Network: Seek out social connections, whether through clubs, classes, or community groups. Finding like-minded individuals can help you feel more comfortable and supported in your new environment.
5. Professional Help: If your anxiety continues to interfere with your daily life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can provide tailored strategies and support to help you navigate your feelings and improve your mental well-being.
6. Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself as you navigate these feelings. Understand that it’s okay to feel anxious and that many others share similar experiences. Acknowledging your feelings without judgment can be a powerful step toward healing.
In conclusion, navigating anxiety in new environments is a complex process that requires patience and self-compassion. By employing gradual exposure techniques, seeking professional help, and building a supportive network, you can work towards feeling more comfortable and confident in social situations. Remember, change takes time, and it’s important to celebrate small victories along the way.
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