How to maintain a positive mood?
Doctor, I used to attend a school where I struggled academically and was bullied.
I often reflect on those experiences, which sometimes makes it hard for me to feel happy.
How can I improve my mood and feel more joyful starting from this moment?
yi, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/02/27
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Being bullied in the past is a painful and distressing experience, but what has happened cannot be changed.
What we can change is our perspective and feelings about those past events.
It is advisable to comfort yourself by acknowledging that the past is behind you and to remind yourself to cherish the present.
It is often more challenging to force ourselves not to think about something; instead, it is easier to redirect our attention by investing time and energy into our hobbies and activities that contribute to our personal growth.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2015/02/27
More Info
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it’s completely understandable to feel weighed down by past experiences, especially bullying. The emotional scars from such experiences can linger, affecting your mood and overall outlook on life. However, there are several strategies you can employ to help boost your mood and begin to overcome the negative feelings associated with your past.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
The first step in overcoming past bullying is to acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated about what happened. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. Journaling can be a helpful way to express your thoughts and feelings. Writing about your experiences can provide clarity and help you process your emotions.
2. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, can help you stay grounded in the present moment. When you find yourself ruminating on past events, take a moment to focus on your breath. Deep breathing exercises can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. Apps like Headspace or Calm offer guided meditations that can be beneficial.
3. Engage in Physical Activity
Exercise is a powerful mood booster. Physical activity releases endorphins, which are chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers and mood elevators. Whether it’s going for a walk, dancing, or participating in a sport, find an activity that you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine.
4. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences
The people you spend time with can significantly impact your mood. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who uplift you. Engage in activities that foster positive relationships, such as joining clubs or groups that share your interests.
5. Set Small, Achievable Goals
Setting and achieving small goals can give you a sense of accomplishment and boost your self-esteem. These goals can be as simple as reading a book, cooking a new recipe, or completing a project. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small.
6. Seek Professional Help
If you find that your feelings of sadness and anxiety are overwhelming, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide you with tools to cope with your feelings and help you work through the trauma of bullying. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective in addressing negative thought patterns.
7. Practice Gratitude
Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help shift your mindset. Consider keeping a gratitude journal where you write down three things you are thankful for each day. This practice can help you cultivate a more positive outlook.
8. Engage in Creative Outlets
Expressing yourself through art, music, or writing can be therapeutic. Creative outlets allow you to channel your emotions into something productive and beautiful. Whether it’s painting, playing an instrument, or writing poetry, find a medium that resonates with you.
9. Limit Exposure to Negative Triggers
If certain situations or people remind you of your past bullying, it may be helpful to limit your exposure to them. Create a safe space for yourself where you can feel comfortable and secure.
10. Focus on the Present and Future
While it’s important to acknowledge your past, try to focus on the present and what you can do to create a positive future. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Set new goals for yourself that align with your interests and passions.
Conclusion
Healing from past bullying takes time and effort, but it is possible. By implementing these strategies, you can begin to shift your focus from the pain of the past to the possibilities of the future. Remember, it’s okay to seek help, and you don’t have to go through this alone. Surround yourself with supportive people and take small steps each day towards a brighter, more positive outlook on life.
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