What should I do if I keep thinking about it?
Doctor, I keep thinking about whether what I'm imagining is just a fantasy.
I've been fantasizing and feeling like things will happen, and my heart rate increases.
This has been going on for a year and a half! I only recently started experiencing this.
What could be the cause? Is it because I'm under a lot of stress? Is there a possibility that what I'm thinking could actually happen? This includes my friends coming to grab me and that person coming to find me, or is it just my stress causing me to overthink? Although I've considered handling it myself, I still find myself saying things like "let's not let this happen again," and then 17 days go by without any contact from him.
I think about these things, but I still feel like he will come back.
Niming, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/11/17
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
It is more difficult to command your brain not to think about something.
It is more feasible to keep yourself busy and focused on other things, which naturally reduces overthinking.
Even if thoughts occasionally arise, since you have already considered and processed them, allow them to fade away naturally without giving them special attention.
Over time, this usually leads to gradual improvement.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2015/11/17
More Info
It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of stress and anxiety, which is manifesting in persistent thoughts or fantasies that are causing you distress. This is not uncommon, especially in high-pressure situations or after experiencing trauma. The mind often tries to cope with stress by creating scenarios, which can sometimes feel very real, leading to heightened emotions such as increased heart rate and anxiety.
Persistent fantasies or intrusive thoughts can be a response to stress, anxiety, or even unresolved trauma. When you are under pressure, your brain may attempt to process these feelings by creating scenarios that reflect your fears or desires. This can lead to a cycle where you feel anxious about these thoughts, which in turn makes you think about them more, creating a feedback loop that can be difficult to break.
In your case, it seems that these thoughts have been ongoing for about a year and a half, which suggests that they may be linked to a specific stressor or unresolved issue in your life. It’s important to recognize that while these thoughts may feel real, they do not necessarily predict future events. They are often a reflection of your current emotional state rather than an indication of what will happen.
Here are some strategies that may help you manage these persistent thoughts:
1. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or grounding exercises can help you focus on the here and now, rather than getting lost in your thoughts.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This type of therapy is effective for managing anxiety and intrusive thoughts. A therapist can help you identify negative thought patterns and replace them with more balanced, realistic thoughts.
3. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you process them and gain clarity. It can also serve as a way to express your feelings without judgment.
4. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can help reduce stress and anxiety. It releases endorphins, which can improve your mood and overall well-being.
5. Talk to Someone: Sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or mental health professional can provide support and help you feel less isolated in your experience.
6. Limit Stressors: If possible, identify and reduce sources of stress in your life. This might involve setting boundaries, delegating tasks, or taking breaks when needed.
7. Professional Help: If these thoughts are significantly impacting your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies tailored to your needs.
Regarding your concern about whether these thoughts could lead to real events, it’s essential to understand that while your mind may create scenarios, it does not mean they will come to fruition. Stress can lead to heightened anxiety and irrational fears, but recognizing that these are just thoughts can help you regain control.
In conclusion, persistent fantasies or intrusive thoughts can be a natural response to stress and anxiety. By employing coping strategies and seeking professional support, you can work towards managing these thoughts and reducing their impact on your life. Remember, you are not alone in this experience, and there are resources available to help you navigate through these challenges.
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