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I have been staying at home and living a solitary life, so I don't understand the unspoken rules of interpersonal relationships.
I don't realize that receiving help from others comes with a sense of obligation, and I have always taken assistance for granted.
My father mentioned that someone like me, who has never made friends, might be easily deceived in social interactions.
Although I keep up with current events and understand social developments, I can't confidently say that I have a high level of awareness or that I handle situations without being taken advantage of.
I would appreciate any advice you could offer.
t, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/01/22
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello, the first step in interpersonal relationship training is empathy training.
It is recommended that before interacting with others, you try to imagine their perspective, understand their position and feelings, and then anticipate what kind of response and treatment they would appreciate.
By developing this ability, your interpersonal interaction skills have the potential to gradually improve.
Wishing you the best!
Reply Date: 2016/01/22
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Navigating social interactions can be particularly challenging for individuals who have spent a significant amount of time in isolation. The concerns you express about understanding social norms and the potential for being taken advantage of are valid and shared by many who find themselves in similar situations. Here are some strategies and insights that may help you build your social skills and navigate these interactions more effectively.
1. Understanding Social Norms:
Social interactions often come with unspoken rules or norms that can be difficult to grasp, especially if you haven't had much practice. These norms can include understanding when to offer help, how to accept help graciously, and recognizing the give-and-take nature of relationships. A good starting point is to observe social interactions around you. Pay attention to how people communicate, the body language they use, and how they respond to one another. This observational learning can provide valuable insights into the subtleties of social engagement.
2. Building Empathy:
Empathy is a crucial component of social interaction. It involves understanding and sharing the feelings of others. Before engaging with someone, try to put yourself in their shoes. Consider what they might be feeling or thinking and how your actions could impact them. This practice can help you respond more appropriately in social situations and foster deeper connections with others.
3. Start Small:
If social interactions feel overwhelming, begin with small, manageable steps. Start by initiating brief conversations with acquaintances or even strangers in low-pressure environments, such as a coffee shop or a community event. Gradually increase the complexity of your interactions as you become more comfortable. This incremental approach can help build your confidence and social skills over time.
4. Practice Assertiveness:
Learning to express your needs and boundaries is essential in any relationship. If you feel that someone is taking advantage of your willingness to help, it’s important to communicate your feelings. Practice saying "no" when necessary and expressing your thoughts openly. This assertiveness can help you establish healthier relationships and reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.
5. Seek Support:
Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate your feelings about social interactions. They can provide you with tools and techniques to manage anxiety and improve your social skills. Group therapy or social skills training can also be beneficial, as they provide a safe space to practice interacting with others.
6. Focus on Positive Thinking:
Cognitive distortions, such as assuming that others will take advantage of you or that you will always be rejected, can hinder your ability to engage socially. Challenge these negative thoughts by replacing them with more balanced perspectives. For example, instead of thinking, "If I reach out, I will be rejected," try reframing it to, "Reaching out could lead to a positive connection." This shift in mindset can reduce anxiety and open you up to new experiences.
7. Embrace Vulnerability:
It’s natural to fear vulnerability, especially when it comes to social interactions. However, embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections with others. Sharing your thoughts and feelings, even if they are uncomfortable, can foster understanding and empathy from those around you.
8. Engage in Activities:
Participating in group activities or classes that interest you can provide a structured way to meet new people. Whether it’s a hobby, a sport, or a community service project, engaging in shared interests can facilitate natural interactions and help you build relationships over time.
In conclusion, navigating social interactions is a skill that can be developed with practice and patience. By observing social norms, building empathy, starting small, practicing assertiveness, seeking support, focusing on positive thinking, embracing vulnerability, and engaging in activities, you can gradually improve your social skills and feel more comfortable in social settings. Remember that everyone has their unique journey in socialization, and it’s okay to take your time as you learn and grow.
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