Obsessed with being scammed?
I have a relative, a highly educated male in his fifties, who has been targeted by an international scam group.
He communicates with them in English all day and has even served six months in prison (I won't go into details).
After his release, he remains unrepentant and continues to search for foreign investment opportunities online, which has led to him being scammed again, and this situation is ongoing.
During the recent Lunar New Year, I spoke with him in hopes of advising him (God knows how many people have tried to counsel him).
His conversation was completely normal (he passed a mental health assessment while in prison), but whenever I pointed out the illogical aspects of the scams, he was able to provide reasonable explanations, leaving me speechless.
I would like to ask the doctor if this kind of obsession is a mental illness or a psychological issue? How can friends and family help him? (It seems unlikely that he will voluntarily seek treatment.)
danny, 50~59 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/02/18
Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry
Hello: Since the initial assessment indicates that there should be no concerns regarding mental disorders, this kind of paranoia may temporarily be considered a part of the individual's personality, which is indeed difficult to change.
It is still recommended that you choose an appropriate time (for example, when they have truly been deceived) to encourage the individual to seek consultation (which may not necessarily be seen as seeking medical treatment) to help resolve the current situation.
Reply Date: 2016/02/18
More Info
Understanding the phenomenon of high achievers falling for scams, particularly in the context of your friend, involves a complex interplay of psychological, emotional, and cognitive factors. While your friend’s high educational attainment and intelligence might suggest he would be less susceptible to scams, the reality is that cognitive biases and emotional vulnerabilities can affect anyone, regardless of their background.
Psychological Factors
1. Cognitive Dissonance: Your friend may be experiencing cognitive dissonance, a psychological phenomenon where a person holds two conflicting beliefs or attitudes. In this case, he may recognize that he has been scammed in the past but continues to pursue similar opportunities due to a strong desire to recover losses or prove himself. This internal conflict can lead to rationalizations that allow him to dismiss the warnings about scams.
2. Confirmation Bias: This is the tendency to search for, interpret, and remember information in a way that confirms one’s preconceptions. Your friend may selectively focus on information that supports his belief in the legitimacy of the investment opportunities he encounters, while ignoring red flags or warnings from others.
3. Obsession and Compulsion: The behavior you describe may also suggest an obsessive-compulsive pattern. Obsession with the idea of making a successful investment can lead to compulsive behaviors, such as continuously seeking out new opportunities despite previous negative experiences. This can be particularly pronounced in individuals who have a strong drive to succeed or recover from past failures.
4. Emotional Vulnerability: High achievers often face immense pressure to succeed, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy or fear of failure. This emotional vulnerability can make them more susceptible to scams that promise quick returns or easy solutions to financial problems.
Potential Mental Health Issues
While your friend may not exhibit overt signs of a mental illness, his behavior could indicate underlying psychological issues. Conditions such as Pathological Gambling or Impulse Control Disorders may manifest in similar ways, where individuals become fixated on the potential for financial gain, leading to repeated risky behaviors despite negative consequences.
Helping Your Friend
1. Open Communication: Engage in non-confrontational conversations about his experiences. Instead of directly challenging his beliefs, ask open-ended questions that encourage him to reflect on his decisions. This can help him consider the possibility that he may be making poor choices without feeling attacked.
2. Educate on Scams: Provide information about common scams and how they operate. Sometimes, understanding the tactics used by scammers can help individuals recognize red flags in future interactions.
3. Encourage Professional Help: While you mentioned that voluntary treatment seems unlikely, gently suggesting that he speak with a mental health professional might be beneficial. Framing it as a way to gain clarity or support rather than as a treatment for a problem can make it more palatable.
4. Support Network: Encourage him to engage with a supportive community or group that focuses on financial literacy or recovery from scams. Hearing from others who have experienced similar situations can be validating and may help him reconsider his approach.
5. Set Boundaries: If his behavior is impacting your relationship or causing distress, it’s important to set boundaries. Let him know that while you care for him, you cannot support or engage in discussions about his investment pursuits if they continue to lead to harmful outcomes.
Conclusion
Your friend’s situation is a poignant example of how high achievers can become ensnared in scams due to a combination of cognitive biases, emotional vulnerabilities, and obsessive behaviors. While it may be challenging to help him recognize the detrimental patterns in his life, fostering open communication, providing education, and encouraging professional support can be constructive steps. Ultimately, change must come from within, and your role as a supportive friend can be invaluable in this process.
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