Loss of memory during intense anger?
Hello doctor, I have a good friend who, when extremely angry, loses awareness of his actions.
Sometimes he charges at others and physically assaults them without realizing it, and he has no memory of the incident until he comes to his senses and sees that he has hurt someone.
He even laughs while hitting, and if he sees blood, he becomes even more excited.
This information comes from people who have witnessed his behavior and from his cousin who grew up with him.
He did not have a good childhood; he grew up without a mother, and his father was involved in drug abuse and domestic violence, often leaving him without regular meals.
I wonder if this has affected him.
After researching online, it doesn’t seem like he has dissociative identity disorder, as he only behaves this way when extremely angry.
Once he gets angry and acts out, it is very difficult for him to control himself, almost as if he becomes a different person.
What kind of condition might this resemble? Does he need to see a doctor for treatment? He is usually very normal and has a good temper.
Thank you, doctor.
Mina, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/08/24
Dr. Xiao Minghong reply Psychiatry
Hello Mina: Emotional expression can be influenced by childhood experiences, and research has shown that a person's memory can also be affected by emotions.
However, the general impact is not as extreme as described in the article, where one might have no recollection after an altercation.
If you wish to understand this further, more resources and assessments are needed.
If your good friend is willing, it may be advisable to seek an evaluation at a psychiatric outpatient clinic.
Wishing you all the best!
Sincerely, Dr.
Hsiao Ming-Hong
Reply Date: 2016/08/24
More Info
Your friend's behavior during intense anger episodes raises significant concerns that warrant a closer examination from a psychiatric perspective. The phenomenon you describe, where he loses awareness of his actions and experiences a dissociative state, can be indicative of several underlying psychological issues.
Firstly, it is essential to understand that memory loss during extreme emotional states, such as anger, can be linked to a condition known as "dissociative amnesia." This condition often occurs as a defense mechanism in response to overwhelming stress or trauma. Given your friend's challenging childhood—marked by neglect, abuse, and instability—it's plausible that these early experiences have contributed to his current emotional and behavioral responses. The brain sometimes protects itself from painful memories or overwhelming emotions by dissociating, which can manifest as a temporary loss of memory or awareness during moments of extreme stress or anger.
Moreover, the fact that your friend exhibits a drastic change in behavior—becoming aggressive and seemingly enjoying the violence—could suggest a form of "disruptive mood dysregulation disorder" or "intermittent explosive disorder." These disorders are characterized by recurrent episodes of impulsive aggression that are disproportionate to the provocation. The excitement he feels upon seeing blood could indicate a heightened arousal state, which is often seen in individuals with a history of trauma or abuse. This arousal can lead to a lack of impulse control, resulting in aggressive outbursts.
It's also worth considering the role of underlying mental health conditions, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Individuals who have experienced significant trauma, especially during formative years, may develop PTSD, which can manifest in various ways, including anger outbursts, flashbacks, and dissociation. The fact that your friend has a history of a tumultuous upbringing, including parental substance abuse and violence, could have left him vulnerable to developing such conditions.
Given the severity of your friend's episodes and the potential for harm to himself or others, it is crucial that he seeks professional help. A mental health professional can conduct a thorough assessment to determine the underlying causes of his behavior and memory loss. Treatment options may include psychotherapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which can help him develop healthier coping mechanisms and address the root causes of his anger. In some cases, medication may also be prescribed to help manage symptoms of impulsivity, anger, or underlying mood disorders.
Encouraging your friend to seek help is vital, as untreated mental health issues can lead to more severe consequences, including legal problems, relationship difficulties, and further emotional distress. It’s important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding, recognizing that his behavior is likely a manifestation of deeper psychological struggles rather than a reflection of his character.
In conclusion, your friend's episodes of memory loss during anger are concerning and suggest the need for professional evaluation and intervention. His traumatic background likely plays a significant role in his current behavior, and addressing these issues through therapy and support can lead to healthier emotional regulation and improved quality of life.
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