Recently, I keep thinking about someone I lost contact with, which is causing emotional distress?
Hello, doctor.
In recent weeks, I have been frequently thinking about my elders, colleagues, friends, and classmates from the past.
These individuals are essentially completely out of contact now.
Every time I think of them, I feel compelled to search for them online, which sometimes causes me anxiety.
In severe cases, my breathing becomes somewhat rapid.
I just want to know how they are doing, but I also understand that it is unnecessary since we haven't been in touch.
However, I can't help but keep wanting to find them.
Does this fall under a mental health condition, or are there medications that can help manage this? Thank you.
Wan, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/05/20
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, netizen: There are medications available that can alleviate such anxiety.
It is also recommended to learn relaxation techniques, change your mood, engage in activities you enjoy, and exercise regularly.
If the anxiety persists for more than a month, it is advisable to seek proper treatment.
Dr.
Wu Enliang
Reply Date: 2021/05/20
More Info
Emotional distress stemming from the loss of connections with significant individuals in our lives can be a profound and challenging experience. It is not uncommon for people to feel a sense of longing or anxiety when they think about friends, family members, or colleagues who have drifted away or become completely disconnected. This emotional turmoil can manifest in various ways, including feelings of sadness, anxiety, and even physical symptoms such as shortness of breath.
From a psychiatric perspective, the feelings you are experiencing may not necessarily indicate a mental illness, but they do suggest that you are grappling with unresolved emotions related to these lost connections. It is essential to recognize that human beings are inherently social creatures, and our relationships play a crucial role in our emotional well-being. When we lose touch with people who were once significant in our lives, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and anxiety, which can be exacerbated by the desire to reconnect.
The urge to seek out these individuals online is a natural response to the emotional distress you are feeling. It reflects a desire for closure or understanding about why these connections faded. However, it is also important to acknowledge that this behavior can sometimes lead to increased anxiety, especially if it becomes an obsessive thought pattern. The knowledge that reaching out may not yield the desired results can create a cycle of frustration and disappointment.
In terms of psychiatric evaluation, while your feelings are valid, they do not automatically classify as a mental disorder. However, if these feelings of anxiety and distress persist and interfere with your daily functioning, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A mental health professional can provide you with tools and strategies to manage your emotions effectively. They may suggest cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which is particularly effective in addressing anxiety and obsessive thoughts. CBT helps individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Additionally, medication may be an option if your anxiety becomes overwhelming. There are various medications, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), that can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety. However, medication should always be considered in conjunction with therapy, as the combination tends to yield the best results.
In the meantime, there are several self-care strategies you can employ to help manage your emotional distress. Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep-breathing exercises, can help reduce anxiety and promote a sense of calm. Physical activity is also beneficial, as it releases endorphins that can improve mood and reduce stress. Finding hobbies or activities that bring you joy can serve as a distraction and help you reconnect with yourself outside of your thoughts about lost connections.
It is also crucial to foster connections with the people who are currently in your life. Spending time with friends or family members, even if they are not the ones you are longing for, can help alleviate feelings of loneliness. Building new relationships or strengthening existing ones can provide a sense of belonging and support.
In summary, while the emotional distress you are experiencing is understandable, it is essential to approach it with self-compassion and seek support if needed. Understanding that these feelings are a part of the human experience can help you navigate through them more effectively. If your anxiety persists or worsens, consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can guide you through this process and help you find peace and resolution.
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