Enjoy wearing a bra?
I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that.
Luanma, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/05/13
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, if this situation has caused significant disruption in your life, it may be a case of fetishism.
It is advisable to seek treatment at a mental health facility.
Dr.
Wu Enliang.
Reply Date: 2022/05/13
More Info
Your experience with wearing bras and the feelings associated with it reflect a complex interplay of identity, comfort, and societal norms. It's important to understand that clothing, including bras, can carry significant psychological and emotional weight, often intertwined with gender identity and societal expectations.
From a psychological perspective, your fascination with wearing bras could be linked to several factors. First, the comfort and security you feel when wearing a bra may stem from the physical sensation of being supported and enclosed. This can create a sense of safety, which is a fundamental human need. The act of wearing a bra, especially if it is associated with femininity, may also provide a form of emotional expression or identity exploration.
Your feelings of shame and excitement when wearing bras can be understood through the lens of societal norms and gender roles. In many cultures, bras are seen as a symbol of femininity, and wearing one as a male can create a conflict between personal desire and societal expectations. This internal conflict can lead to feelings of guilt or shame, especially if you perceive that your actions deviate from traditional gender norms.
The repetitive cycle of desire and shame you describe—wanting to wear a bra, feeling good while wearing it, and then experiencing shame afterward—can be indicative of a broader struggle with self-acceptance and societal acceptance. It's not uncommon for individuals to feel drawn to clothing or behaviors that are traditionally associated with the opposite gender, especially if they find comfort or pleasure in those experiences.
Your desire for breast augmentation and the admiration you have for female body types further highlight your complex relationship with gender identity. It's essential to recognize that wanting to embody certain physical traits does not necessarily mean you wish to change your gender identity. Many individuals experience a blend of gender expressions and identities, and it's perfectly valid to explore these feelings without the need for a definitive label.
If these feelings are causing you distress or confusion, it may be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional who specializes in gender identity and expression. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings and help you navigate the complexities of your identity without judgment. Therapy can also assist in addressing any feelings of shame or guilt, allowing you to embrace your interests and desires more fully.
In conclusion, your fascination with wearing bras is not inherently a "problem" or a "disease." Instead, it reflects a personal journey of self-exploration and identity. Clothing should indeed be a form of self-expression free from gender constraints, and understanding your feelings can lead to greater self-acceptance and peace. Embracing your unique identity and desires is a vital step toward living authentically.
Similar Q&A
Struggling with Cross-Dressing Desires: Understanding the Psychological Impact
Hello Doctor: Over time, I have gradually realized that I have a particular fondness for certain styles of women's clothing. However, I am not homosexual, nor do I desire any physical attributes like a curvy figure or breasts. I simply enjoy "cute" items associated...
Dr. Huang Xiaoxian reply Psychiatry
Dear A-Dian, thank you for your question. It sounds like this is quite troubling and challenging for you. You've mentioned that you don't have an attraction to men and that you don't wish to become a woman, but rather you feel joy when cross-dressing. Everyone has ...[Read More] Struggling with Cross-Dressing Desires: Understanding the Psychological Impact
Understanding the Psychological Impact of Hosiery Fetishes
Hello, doctor. I'm not sure if this counts as a disorder, but ever since I secretly wore my mother's stockings in the eighth grade, I've unknowingly fallen into this habit. Whenever I'm home alone, I sneak on the stockings and find the sensation of being envel...
Dr. Yan Congyou reply Psychiatry
Dear Asu, The psychological conflict you mentioned is a common issue during the process of growth and identity formation on the gender spectrum, which includes gender identity, sexual orientation, and sexual preferences. However, this issue needs to be discussed in person, in co...[Read More] Understanding the Psychological Impact of Hosiery Fetishes
Understanding Gender Identity: Navigating Confusion and Acceptance
Hello Doctor, I am 24 years old. Since elementary school, I have had a desire to wear clothing of the opposite gender, which makes me feel comfortable inside. In middle school, I had crushes on male classmates, but I also felt attraction towards girls. In high school, I wore girl...
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Basically, your behavior has not harmed others, and it is advisable not to put too much pressure on yourself. Everyone is unique, and preferences can vary. If you do not want to become overly immersed in it, try to engage in a variety of different leisure activities. Addit...[Read More] Understanding Gender Identity: Navigating Confusion and Acceptance
Understanding a Boy's Desire to Wear Women's Clothing: A Psychiatric Perspective
Since I was young, I have had the desire to try wearing women's clothing because I find women's clothes to be beautiful and varied. The lingerie section also looks appealing and diverse. Whenever I pass by the lingerie area while shopping, I often can't help but ta...
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Everyone can have their own unique interests and preferences, as long as they do not feel troubled by them and they do not affect others, they should be considered personal traits and freedoms. However, if it has already caused distress, it is advisable to consult a physic...[Read More] Understanding a Boy's Desire to Wear Women's Clothing: A Psychiatric Perspective
Related FAQ
(Psychiatry)
Gender(Psychiatry)
Obsessive Thoughts(Psychiatry)
Anorexia Nervosa(Psychiatry)
Autism(Psychiatry)
Homosexuality(Psychiatry)
Talking To Oneself(Psychiatry)
Social Interaction(Psychiatry)
Cbt(Psychiatry)
Emotions(Psychiatry)