a Boy's Desire to Wear Women's Clothing: A Psychiatric Perspective - Psychiatry

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A boy who wants to wear women's clothing?


Since I was young, I have had the desire to try wearing women's clothing because I find women's clothes to be beautiful and varied.
The lingerie section also looks appealing and diverse.
Whenever I pass by the lingerie area while shopping, I often can't help but take a few extra glances.
As I grew older, I occasionally looked up articles on how to choose women's clothing or how to wear lingerie.
I also browsed online sellers and products to see what items would suit my body type, which isn't the best.
After saving some pocket money, I gradually bought a few pieces to try out, of course, hiding them in places where my family wouldn't see them.
When my family wasn't around, I would take them out to wear.
I find women's lingerie to be very comfortable; it provides good coverage and feels nice, enhancing my figure (I have a bit more flesh on my backside).
Sleepwear is also very relaxing.
Women's tops, pants, and skirts feel great to wear; some are light, comfortable, and attractive, while others are form-fitting and beautiful.
After wearing them, I feel much better overall.
However, a tragedy occurred when my family suddenly decided to clean up, and the items I bought were discovered.
From their conversations, it seems they are not very accepting of a boy wanting to wear women's clothing, especially just at home.
So, I had to hide this desire and pretend everything was normal.
Yet, this thought has persisted and followed me into my college life.
I plan to fulfill this suppressed wish after moving out of the dormitory and renting my own place.
Doctor, what are your thoughts on a boy wanting to wear women's clothing?

Xiao Li, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/11/30

Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry


Hello: Everyone can have their own unique interests and preferences, as long as they do not feel troubled by them and they do not affect others, they should be considered personal traits and freedoms.
However, if it has already caused distress, it is advisable to consult a physician for a face-to-face discussion.
Wishing you all the best.

Reply Date: 2015/11/30

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The desire of a boy to wear women's clothing can be understood through various psychological and sociocultural lenses. It is essential to recognize that clothing is a form of self-expression, and the desire to wear clothing traditionally associated with another gender does not inherently indicate a psychological disorder. Instead, it may reflect personal preferences, comfort, and a desire for aesthetic appreciation.

From a psychiatric perspective, the phenomenon of cross-dressing, or wearing clothing typically associated with the opposite gender, can be categorized under various terms, including "gender nonconformity" or "cross-dressing." Many individuals experience a sense of comfort and satisfaction when wearing clothing that aligns with their personal identity or aesthetic preferences, regardless of societal norms. This behavior is often harmless and can be a part of exploring one's identity.

In your case, the enjoyment you derive from wearing women's clothing, such as lingerie and dresses, suggests a personal affinity for the aesthetics and comfort associated with those garments. The feelings of relaxation and self-acceptance you experience when wearing these clothes indicate that this behavior may serve as a coping mechanism or a way to express your individuality. It is important to note that many people, regardless of gender, find joy in clothing that may not conform to traditional gender norms.

However, the conflict you face with your family's acceptance of your desire to wear women's clothing can lead to feelings of shame or the need to hide your preferences. This internal struggle can be psychologically taxing and may contribute to anxiety or low self-esteem. It is crucial to understand that societal norms regarding gender and clothing are evolving, and many individuals are advocating for the acceptance of diverse expressions of gender identity and personal style.

If you find that your desire to wear women's clothing is causing significant distress or impacting your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek support from a mental health professional. A therapist can provide a safe space to explore your feelings, help you navigate familial pressures, and assist you in developing strategies for self-acceptance. Therapy can also help you understand the roots of your desires and how they fit into your overall identity.

Moreover, it is essential to cultivate a supportive environment for yourself. Surrounding yourself with understanding friends or communities that embrace gender diversity can provide validation and reduce feelings of isolation. Online forums and support groups for individuals who share similar experiences can also be valuable resources for connection and understanding.

In conclusion, your desire to wear women's clothing is a valid expression of your identity and personal preferences. While societal pressures may create challenges, it is essential to prioritize your mental well-being and seek support if needed. Embracing your individuality and finding ways to express yourself authentically can lead to greater self-acceptance and fulfillment. Remember, clothing does not define your worth or identity; it is merely a tool for self-expression.

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