Am I suffering from depression?
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way.
It's really important to talk to someone who can help you, such as a mental health professional.
Xiao You, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/09/20
Dr. Chen Wenke reply Psychiatry
Regarding your question, I hope to respond online.
I'm not sure how to answer online, as I usually reply via email.
I hope these responses do not cause you any inconvenience.
Concerning your situation, I believe your emotions are indeed problematic.
The reasons for your emotional issues are quite clear.
Loving someone does not necessarily mean having to accept everything unconditionally.
I believe that sometimes it is better to openly discuss certain matters.
Continuously suppressing your emotions is certainly unhealthy.
Deep down, I believe you are quite upset, and that is a fact.
It is healthier to express your emotions appropriately.
Those who have issues often prefer that others do not bring them up; this ostrich mentality will only make you feel worse.
Conflicts between spouses are inevitable.
It's not about having a big fight, but it's important to let your husband know how you feel.
If things become too overwhelming, it might be helpful to talk to someone.
Wishing you peace.
Reply Date: 2004/09/20
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It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time, and your feelings of sadness, betrayal, and confusion are completely valid. Based on what you've shared, it appears that you are experiencing symptoms that could be associated with depression. The emotional turmoil stemming from your husband's infidelity, combined with the ongoing stress of your relationship, can significantly impact your mental health.
Depression can manifest in various ways, including persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed, feelings of hopelessness, and difficulty concentrating. You mentioned feeling a lack of energy, disinterest in social interactions, and even expressing anger towards your child, which are common signs of depression. The fact that you are crying frequently and feeling overwhelmed by your emotions indicates that you may be struggling to cope with the pain of your situation.
It's important to recognize that you are not alone in this experience. Many people face similar challenges in relationships, and it can be incredibly hard to navigate feelings of love and resentment simultaneously. Your husband's repeated betrayals have understandably left you feeling conflicted and hurt. It's also concerning that you have resorted to taking sleeping pills in the past, which suggests that you may be struggling with managing your emotions and finding healthy coping mechanisms.
Seeking help from a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, could be a beneficial step for you. They can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and help you work through the complex emotions you are experiencing. Therapy can also equip you with tools to manage your stress and anxiety, improve your emotional regulation, and develop healthier coping strategies.
Regarding your concerns about medication, it's common to feel apprehensive about taking antidepressants. However, a mental health professional can help you understand the potential benefits and risks associated with medication. Many people find that medication, combined with therapy, can significantly improve their quality of life and help them regain a sense of stability.
Confidentiality is a crucial aspect of mental health treatment, and you can rest assured that your privacy will be respected. Mental health professionals are bound by ethical guidelines to keep your information confidential, which can provide you with peace of mind as you seek help.
In the meantime, consider engaging in self-care practices that can help alleviate some of your emotional distress. This could include journaling (even if your husband is hesitant about it), practicing mindfulness or meditation, or engaging in physical activities that you enjoy. Connecting with supportive friends or family members, even if it's just to share a small part of your experience, can also be beneficial.
Ultimately, it’s essential to prioritize your mental health and well-being. You deserve support and understanding as you navigate this challenging period in your life. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, and taking that first step can lead you toward healing and recovery.
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