Bisexuality
I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that.
Xiao Q, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/02/03
Dr. Song Chengxian reply Psychiatry
Dear Q,
First, I apologize for the delayed response; this email was previously set to limited access.
Secondly, there are some unclear aspects regarding your basic information, so I can only respond under hypothetical circumstances.
You asked how to change the habit of liking boys.
If you are a girl, I wonder why you would want to change that? Is it due to the pain of a past breakup, or are you concerned about encountering the wrong person? If you decide to stop liking boys because of this, it might be an overreaction.
In the second scenario, if you are a boy who feels that you shouldn't like boys and want to change to liking girls, from the current perspective of psychiatry, having a preference for the same sex (homosexuality) does not constitute a mental disorder.
However, in different cultures, religions, and social values, homosexuals still tend to face discrimination as a minority.
Does this make you feel disheartened and want to "switch paths"? In fact, over the past 20 years, psychiatry has moved towards the "depathologization" of homosexuality, and societal acceptance of homosexuality has gradually increased in many countries.
Numerous advanced nations have enacted laws to protect individuals' freedom of sexual orientation.
So, if you are a boy, you should be aware of this aspect of yourself.
Wishing you love in the right place and a broad sky ahead!
Reply Date: 2005/02/03
More Info
Understanding bisexuality and navigating feelings for men can be a complex and often challenging journey. It's important to recognize that sexual orientation is a deeply ingrained aspect of who we are, and it cannot simply be changed at will. Bisexuality, which refers to the attraction to both men and women, is a valid and recognized sexual orientation. Many people experience attraction to multiple genders, and this is a normal part of human sexuality.
First and foremost, it's essential to understand that there is nothing "abnormal" about being attracted to men if you identify as bisexual. Society often imposes rigid definitions of sexuality, leading individuals to feel confused or ashamed about their feelings. However, sexual orientation is not a choice; it is an inherent part of who you are. Trying to suppress or change your feelings can lead to significant emotional distress and may even result in mental health issues such as anxiety or depression.
If you find yourself struggling with your feelings for men, it may be helpful to explore these feelings in a safe and supportive environment. Consider seeking out a therapist or counselor who specializes in LGBTQ+ issues. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate your feelings and help you understand that your attractions do not define your worth or identity. Therapy can also assist in addressing any internalized stigma or societal pressures you may be experiencing.
Additionally, it may be beneficial to connect with others who share similar experiences. Joining LGBTQ+ support groups or online communities can provide a sense of belonging and validation. Hearing from others who have navigated similar feelings can help you feel less isolated and more understood.
It's also important to reflect on what you want for yourself. Are you feeling pressured to conform to a specific identity, or are you genuinely uncomfortable with your feelings for men? Understanding your motivations can help clarify your feelings and guide your actions moving forward. Remember, it's okay to take your time in exploring your identity and feelings. There is no rush to label yourself or make definitive decisions about your sexuality.
Lastly, practice self-compassion. It's normal to have conflicting feelings about attraction, and it's okay to be uncertain about your identity. Allow yourself the space to explore these feelings without judgment. Embrace the complexity of human sexuality, and remember that it's perfectly valid to be attracted to more than one gender.
In summary, rather than trying to change your feelings for men, consider embracing your bisexuality as a part of your identity. Seek support, explore your feelings, and practice self-acceptance. Your feelings are valid, and navigating them can lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and your desires.
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