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I often feel nervous when talking to people and tend to be quite tense in general.
During my military service, my anxiety worsened due to fear, and I didn't pay much attention to it at the time.
Now, I find it difficult to express myself when speaking, and recently my mental state has deteriorated compared to before.
I also feel discomfort in my head.
I would like to know if excessive mental tension can lead to discomfort, and what should I do about it?
wei, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2001/12/17
Dr. Huang Xiangxiong reply Psychiatry
When a person is in a state of high anxiety for an extended period, it is easy to develop psychosomatic symptoms.
Therefore, it is essential to relax both the body and mind in a timely manner.
If you find it difficult to relax or if physical discomfort begins to manifest, it is advisable to seek consultation from a nearby psychiatrist.
A professional mental health team can assist you in learning techniques for appropriate relaxation, and if necessary, provide medication as an adjunct to treatment.
Reply Date: 2001/12/17
More Info
Managing anxiety, particularly in social situations, can be a significant challenge, especially when compounded by experiences such as military service, which can heighten feelings of fear and discomfort. Your concerns about feeling tense and having difficulty speaking in conversations are common among individuals who experience anxiety, and it's essential to understand that these feelings can indeed lead to physical discomfort, including sensations in the head and overall mental strain.
Understanding Anxiety and Its Physical Manifestations
Anxiety is a natural response to stress, and it can manifest in various ways, both mentally and physically. When you feel anxious, your body goes into a "fight or flight" mode, which can lead to increased heart rate, muscle tension, and a heightened state of alertness. This physiological response can cause discomfort, particularly in the head and neck areas, as the muscles may become tense and lead to headaches or a feeling of pressure.
In your case, the tension you feel while speaking may stem from a combination of social anxiety and the residual effects of your military experience. The fear of judgment or making mistakes in conversation can create a cycle of anxiety that makes it even harder to communicate effectively. This cycle can lead to a heightened sense of discomfort, making it feel as though your mind goes blank when you attempt to speak.
Steps to Manage Anxiety and Improve Communication
1. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga, can help reduce overall tension and anxiety. These techniques encourage relaxation and can help you become more aware of your body’s responses to stress, allowing you to manage them more effectively.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is a highly effective treatment for anxiety disorders. It focuses on identifying and challenging negative thought patterns and beliefs that contribute to anxiety. Working with a therapist, you can learn to reframe your thoughts about social interactions and develop coping strategies to manage anxiety in real-time.
3. Gradual Exposure: Gradually exposing yourself to social situations can help desensitize you to the anxiety associated with them. Start with low-pressure environments, such as speaking with a friend or family member, and gradually work your way up to larger groups or more formal settings.
4. Communication Skills Training: Consider joining a group or workshop focused on improving communication skills. This can provide a supportive environment to practice speaking and interacting with others, which can help build confidence over time.
5. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly reduce anxiety levels. Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters, and can help alleviate the physical symptoms of anxiety.
6. Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety continues to interfere with your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide tailored strategies and possibly medication if necessary to help manage your symptoms.
7. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Ensure you are getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, and staying hydrated. These factors can significantly impact your mental health and overall well-being.
Conclusion
It's important to recognize that feeling anxious and tense in social situations is a common experience, and there are effective strategies to manage these feelings. By incorporating relaxation techniques, seeking professional guidance, and gradually exposing yourself to social interactions, you can work towards overcoming these challenges. Remember, progress may take time, and it's essential to be patient with yourself as you navigate this journey. If you continue to experience discomfort or if your symptoms worsen, please consult a healthcare professional for further evaluation and support.
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