Finding Dignity in Mental Health: A Journey of Acceptance and Struggle - Psychiatry

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Hello Dr.
Wu: Since childhood, I have been humiliated by my mother in various ways.
Now that I am older, I only have the thought of living happily, but others do not understand me.
It feels like I am constantly being held underwater; living seems more painful than dying.
I don't know how to express the struggles within me, and the people around me misunderstand me as being bad and feel the need to constantly reprimand me.
However, I also long for acceptance and affirmation.
I have a perceptual disorder and take my medication diligently.
I won’t go into my past experiences, but I do have a job.
Yet, I cannot see a future; it seems that others are more accepting of my self-destructive outcomes.
The way I appear as a person is not something I can decide for myself.
May I ask...
what conditions must one meet to be considered a person?

Meizi, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/12/25

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry


Hello, Miss: Your question is quite serious, and I recommend discussing it with your outpatient physician who understands your situation.
In fact, I suggest you come back for a consultation with me.
Dr.
Wu Enliang

Reply Date: 2015/12/25

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Dear Inquirer,
Thank you for your heartfelt message. It’s clear that you are navigating a complex and painful journey regarding your mental health and self-identity. Your experiences of being subjected to humiliation and misunderstanding from those around you, particularly from a parent, can have profound effects on your self-esteem and overall mental well-being. It’s important to acknowledge that your feelings are valid and that you are not alone in this struggle.

From what you have shared, it seems you are dealing with a combination of mental health challenges, including a perception disorder and possibly depression. These conditions can significantly impact how you view yourself and your place in the world. The feelings of being misunderstood and the desire for acceptance are common among individuals who have faced similar adversities. It’s crucial to understand that the journey to finding dignity and acceptance in oneself often involves confronting these painful experiences and emotions.

In terms of what it means to be human and the conditions that one must meet, it’s essential to recognize that being human is inherently complex. There is no single set of criteria that defines what it means to be a person. However, several fundamental aspects can contribute to a sense of dignity and self-acceptance:
1. Self-Compassion: Learning to treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially in moments of failure or struggle, is vital. This means recognizing that everyone has flaws and that it’s okay to not be perfect.

2. Authenticity: Embracing your true self, including your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, is crucial. This can be challenging, especially if you feel the need to wear a mask to fit in or to avoid judgment from others.

3. Connection: Building meaningful relationships with others who understand and accept you can provide a sense of belonging. It’s important to seek out supportive communities, whether they are friends, family, or mental health support groups.

4. Empowerment: Taking control of your narrative and making choices that align with your values and desires can help you reclaim your sense of agency. This might involve setting boundaries with those who do not support your well-being.

5. Seeking Help: Engaging with mental health professionals can provide you with tools and strategies to cope with your feelings and experiences. Therapy can be a safe space to explore your thoughts and emotions without judgment.

6. Mindfulness and Reflection: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded in the present moment and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression. Reflecting on your experiences and feelings can also promote self-awareness and understanding.

It’s important to remember that healing is a process, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. You mentioned that you are already on medication for your perceptual disorder, which is a positive step. Continuing to work with your healthcare provider to monitor and adjust your treatment as needed is essential.

Lastly, I encourage you to reach out to mental health resources available in your community. Support hotlines, counseling services, and peer support groups can provide additional assistance and understanding as you navigate your journey.

You deserve to find peace and acceptance within yourself, and while the path may be challenging, it is possible to achieve a sense of dignity and fulfillment in your life. Please take care of yourself, and remember that seeking help is a sign of strength.

Warm regards,
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