Exploring Gender Identity: Navigating the Spectrum of Self-Discovery

Gender identity

Hello, doctor: For the past few years, I have been actively trying to explore my identity.
I have read many books and articles, but I feel like there is no template for me.
The closest example might be the internet personality "Jiong Xing Ren"! I have been exploring for over eight years, and I am still uncertain about my gender identity.
I dislike body hair, an Adam's apple, and I am not fond of masculine traits or crude jokes, but I also dislike very feminine individuals.
Most of my social circle consists of androgynous personalities.
Currently, I have no interest in either men or women, and I have worn women's clothing without feeling much physically.
I still hope to have a body like a woman.
I suspect my gender identity is that of a gender-neutral woman, but is there such a peculiar identification method? Thank you! (Note: My interests range from fashion design to military strategy research, but I have no interest in physically demanding work.
Essentially, I have many interests that are traditionally considered male or female, and I have a lot in each category.
Many of my interests may traditionally be seen as contradictory.
I have taken interest assessments that show very low correlation, almost no relation.)

Niming Fawen, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2019/07/23

Dr. Huang Xiaoxian reply Psychiatry

Dear isefvb, thank you for your question.
Regarding the situation you mentioned, it is actually not uncommon.
From your description, it seems that you identify as female but do not particularly like certain masculine traits.
Being a woman does not necessarily mean one must appreciate traditionally masculine characteristics.
Just like many women, you may have specific preferences for traits such as cuteness, intellectualism, or gentleness; everyone has different tastes.
The current understanding of the gender spectrum is also more diverse.
Interest assessments can sometimes provide us with useful insights, and maintaining a diverse and open-minded approach to interests can be beneficial for future career choices.
Additionally, seeking evaluation from a mental health professional and undergoing psychological testing can lead to a deeper understanding.
Wishing you all the best!

Reply Date: 2019/07/23

More Info

Exploring gender identity can be a complex and deeply personal journey, and it sounds like you have been on this path for quite some time. Your experiences and feelings are valid, and it's important to recognize that gender identity exists on a spectrum, allowing for a diverse range of identities beyond the traditional binary of male and female.

From what you've described, it seems you may identify with aspects of being a gender non-conforming individual or possibly a non-binary identity. Non-binary individuals often feel that their gender identity does not fit strictly within the categories of male or female. This can include a mix of both, neither, or a unique identity altogether. Your discomfort with certain masculine traits and your preference for a more androgynous or feminine appearance align with this understanding.

It's also noteworthy that you mentioned a lack of interest in traditional gender roles and activities typically associated with masculinity or femininity. This further suggests that you may not feel confined to the conventional expectations of gender. The fact that you enjoy a variety of interests that span across what society typically categorizes as masculine or feminine is a positive reflection of your individuality. Interests in fashion design and strategic studies, for instance, are not inherently tied to any specific gender and demonstrate your multifaceted personality.

Your exploration of gender identity may also benefit from considering the concept of gender fluidity, where individuals may feel their gender identity shifts over time or in different contexts. This fluidity can be liberating, allowing you to express yourself in ways that feel authentic to you without the pressure of fitting into a specific label.

If you are feeling uncertain or confused about your gender identity, seeking support from a mental health professional who specializes in gender identity issues can be incredibly beneficial. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings and thoughts, helping you to navigate your identity in a supportive environment. Engaging in therapy can also assist in addressing any feelings of anxiety or distress you may have regarding your identity.

Additionally, connecting with communities that focus on gender diversity can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. Online forums, local support groups, or social media platforms dedicated to gender non-conformity and non-binary identities can offer valuable insights and shared experiences from others who may be on similar journeys.

In summary, your exploration of gender identity is a valid and important process. It’s perfectly acceptable to identify as a gender non-conforming individual or to explore a non-binary identity. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to experience your gender, and your feelings and preferences are unique to you. Embrace your journey of self-discovery, and consider seeking professional guidance to help you navigate this complex and rewarding exploration.

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