Navigating Self-Worth: Mental Health Insights for Struggling Students

Some questions?

I went through a stage of growth where I attended schools that were not considered prestigious, and as a result, I did not receive much validation.
I have always enjoyed reading, visiting bookstores, and going to libraries.
However, I am fully aware that my educational journey has not been smooth like that of others who attended good schools.
Despite this, I have maintained my reading habits.
I know I am not seen as a top-performing gifted student in the eyes of society, which sometimes leads me to question how I should evaluate myself.
I remember during my student days, when I was reading in class, others assumed I must have attended a good school, but I believe that one’s love for reading should not be measured by such standards.
At times, I feel lost and doubt my abilities, perhaps telling myself that I am just not good at taking exams.
When I reflect on my educational experiences, I feel fortunate that I do not have a high academic degree; otherwise, I might have become arrogant and expected more rewards in my professional life.
This brings me to a multitude of reflections.
I would appreciate any advice from a physician.

Yi, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2014/11/06

Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry

Hello, enjoying reading is certainly a good thing, but whether to link it to our self-worth is something I believe should be approached with moderation.
You can affirm that you have this good habit, but since you are already thirty years old, based on the various inquiries you've made in the past, I suggest that you should not be constrained by your educational background or the schools you attended.
This is a common value among us Taiwanese, and you are not exempt from its significant influence.
However, a person's worth should not be solely defined by reading and academic credentials, especially after leaving school and entering society, where other skills and diverse personality traits are also highly valued.
In fact, the Taiwanese society's emphasis on academic qualifications is gradually changing; many highly educated individuals are returning to explore their true interests.
While outsiders may see it as a pity that they are not applying their education, this atmosphere is slowly injecting fresh elements of diverse values into Taiwanese society, moving beyond just high academic achievement.
I recommend that you take the time to discover your interests and strengths, appreciate yourself from multiple perspectives, and not be overly fixated on your past schools and learning experiences, as those are now behind you! Wishing you all the best.
Dr.
Ding Shuo-Yan

Reply Date: 2014/11/06

More Info

Navigating self-worth, especially during the formative years of education, can be a challenging journey for many students. Your experiences reflect a common struggle among individuals who may not fit the traditional mold of academic success, yet possess a passion for learning and personal growth. It’s essential to recognize that self-worth is not solely determined by grades or the prestige of the institutions one attends. Instead, it encompasses a broader understanding of one’s values, interests, and unique contributions to the world.

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge the feelings of inadequacy that often arise when comparing oneself to peers. Many students grapple with the pressure to excel academically, and this can lead to a distorted view of self-worth. You mentioned enjoying reading and spending time in libraries, which are valuable pursuits that foster knowledge and personal development. These interests should be celebrated rather than diminished by societal expectations. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment is a crucial aspect of building a positive self-image.

Moreover, it’s vital to understand that intelligence and capability come in various forms. The traditional education system often emphasizes standardized testing and grades, which can overlook diverse talents and skills. For instance, your love for reading indicates a strong intellectual curiosity, which is a significant asset. Embracing your unique strengths and recognizing that success can manifest in many ways can help shift your perspective on self-worth.

In addition, consider reframing your internal dialogue. Instead of focusing on perceived shortcomings, try to acknowledge your efforts and progress. For example, you mentioned that you might not be the top student, but you have maintained a consistent reading habit. This dedication to learning is commendable and reflects resilience. Practicing self-compassion and treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend can be transformative.

Furthermore, it may be beneficial to seek support from mentors, teachers, or counselors who can provide guidance and encouragement. Engaging in discussions about your feelings and experiences can help you gain insights and strategies for coping with self-doubt. Surrounding yourself with a supportive community can also reinforce your sense of belonging and self-worth.

Lastly, consider setting personal goals that align with your interests and values rather than external expectations. This could involve pursuing projects related to your reading interests, joining clubs that focus on literature, or even volunteering in educational settings. By actively engaging in pursuits that resonate with you, you can cultivate a sense of achievement that is independent of traditional academic measures.

In conclusion, navigating self-worth as a student involves recognizing and valuing your unique qualities and interests. It’s essential to challenge societal norms that equate success with academic performance alone. By embracing your passions, practicing self-compassion, seeking support, and setting personal goals, you can foster a healthier self-image and a more fulfilling educational experience. Remember, your worth is inherent and not defined by grades or external validation. Embrace your journey, and allow your love for learning to guide you toward a fulfilling path.

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