Seeking Validation: Navigating Mental Health and Self-Worth

Life has been very tragic?

After several letters being deleted, I feel that my content is not being valued.
Although the true reasons are unknown, I have realized that I want to be acknowledged.
I discovered that I enjoy discussing topics that are attention-grabbing; it seems that only in this way can I feel my own worth.
While my thoughts may differ from others, it doesn't necessarily mean that I am abnormal.
During my student days, others thought my content was different, but I believed it was a sign of my independent thinking ability.
At that time, I faced exclusion in group settings.
However, when I entered the workforce during the financial crisis and everyone was losing their jobs and receiving unemployment benefits, I managed to secure a job.
Although it wasn't due to exceptional abilities, it did contrast with the situations of others.
Therefore, I can only say that I have discovered my own strengths.
Of course, some may label me as self-absorbed, but this is a way to seek validation from those around me.
Today, I have written extensively about my feelings and hope to receive a response from a physician.

g, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/02/11

Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry

Hello, the question you asked has been deleted, possibly due to a communication issue, meaning that the person responding may not fully understand the key points of your inquiry, or there may have been similar topics asked previously.
I believe the difficulty in answering your question stems from this, along with the fact that the descriptions are based on past situations but lack a comparison with the current circumstances, making it unclear what your core issue is at this moment.
Dwelling on past events is often not beneficial for the present situation.
Based on your numerous inquiries in the past, I suggest that you take action and find a more practical and manageable starting point to engage seriously.
If you truly cannot escape the influence of negative memories from the past, I recommend seeing a physician and considering medication as an option.
Otherwise, without focused exploration, months and years will pass by without resolution.
Wishing you all the best.
Sincerely, Dr.
Ding Shuo-Yan.

Reply Date: 2016/02/11

More Info

Navigating mental health and self-worth can be a complex journey, especially when you feel the need for validation from others. It’s not uncommon to seek acknowledgment and appreciation, particularly when you have experienced feelings of being overlooked or misunderstood. Your reflections on wanting to be valued and recognized for your unique contributions are important and deserve attention.

Firstly, it’s essential to understand that seeking validation is a natural human desire. We all want to feel seen and heard, and this is especially true in social contexts where we may feel different or isolated. Your experience of feeling that your thoughts and ideas are not being valued can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. This is compounded by the fact that mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, can distort our self-perception and exacerbate feelings of worthlessness.

From a psychological perspective, it’s crucial to recognize that self-worth should ideally come from within rather than relying solely on external validation. Building a strong sense of self-worth involves understanding and accepting who you are, including your strengths and weaknesses. Engaging in self-reflection can help you identify what makes you unique and valuable, independent of others' opinions. This process can be facilitated through practices such as journaling, mindfulness, or therapy, where you can explore your thoughts and feelings in a safe environment.

Moreover, it’s important to acknowledge that everyone has their own journey and struggles. Just because your experiences or thoughts differ from those around you doesn’t mean they are invalid. In fact, having the ability to think independently is a strength. It’s essential to embrace your individuality and recognize that diversity in thought can enrich discussions and relationships. While it may lead to feelings of isolation at times, it can also foster deeper connections with those who appreciate your perspective.

In terms of your professional experiences, such as finding work during challenging economic times, it’s commendable that you were able to navigate those difficulties. This resilience is a testament to your capabilities and should be a source of pride. Recognizing your achievements, no matter how small they may seem, can help reinforce your self-worth. Celebrate your successes and remind yourself that your contributions are valuable, regardless of how they compare to others.

If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by the need for validation, it may be helpful to set boundaries around your interactions. For instance, consider limiting your exposure to environments or individuals that consistently make you feel undervalued. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who appreciate you for who you are can significantly impact your self-esteem.

Lastly, if you continue to struggle with feelings of inadequacy or find that they interfere with your daily life, seeking professional help can be beneficial. A mental health professional can provide you with tools and strategies to improve your self-esteem and navigate your feelings more effectively. Therapy can also offer a space to explore your thoughts and feelings without judgment, helping you to develop a more compassionate view of yourself.

In conclusion, navigating mental health and self-worth is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion. Recognize your unique qualities, celebrate your achievements, and seek supportive environments that foster your growth. Remember, your value is inherent, and you deserve to feel worthy and appreciated, both by yourself and others.

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